"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Throwaway Compliments

Mr.Style

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If you're having trouble approaching girls a good thing to do is to give some girl a throwaway compliment. For example, if you're standing beside some girl be it at a bus stop, in a queue, whatever and you can't think of anything to say, simply say something complimentary to them. eg. "That's a nice outfit" or "you look very nice if you don't mind me saying". Basically, anything complimentary. The effect of this is:

- You will find most girls will respond positively towards you (unless they're total b*tches) which will help your confidence.

- You will feel good about the fact that you have brightened up someone's day and that you can make girls happy.

- You'll discover that talking to women isn't so hard.

- You may also find that the girl wishes to have a conversation with you.

A good tip if you are finding yourself reluctant to talk to girls you find attractive.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wavejams007

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Most AFCs do this. Try and notice something about the girl that most people wouldn't notice. That will get you better results than just a smile and a thank you for saying my dress is nice.
 

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Originally posted by wavejams007
Most AFCs do this. Try and notice something about the girl that most people wouldn't notice. That will get you better results than just a smile and a thank you for saying my dress is nice.
Yeah, compliments are most effective when they are specific and somewhat unexpected/original.
 

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yeah, for a more interesting compliment you can give a women is "I can see thru your skirt, nice panties". :rolleyes: :crackup:.
 

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Originally posted by wavejams007
Most AFCs do this. Try and notice something about the girl that most people wouldn't notice. That will get you better results than just a smile and a thank you for saying my dress is nice.
I think hes trying more to give AFCs a easier way to begin approaching before they go onto real approaches. Any compliment can work if you're a true alpha. I use BB and Sharks "You are beautiful, I want to get to know you" then maybe add in a compliment about the positive vibe she has or whatever.
Don't try to gradually build up to proper approaches. If you have to you could go to an area far,far away where no-one would ever see you again(unless you have real "I don't give a **** attitude" but you may get into trouble with BFs if you do that near where you live) and say "I want to **** you" when you've done that 10 times see if you get scared of some lame opener or even direct approaches.

Remember guys: "No matter what I say she WILL like me"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Also, using neg hits can generate interest too. But if you dont know the girl at all then you will generally just come accross as a complete b*stard. But this in itself can be good for confidence, just at the expense of some hot chick.
 
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