"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Thoughts on sharing and saying no.

TheMonkeyKing

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I have been playing basketball on a competitive level again for the last year and gradually my game is coming back.

A couple of times a week I will head down to the local park to shoot around and maybe a bit of pick up.

Guys will often turn up without a ball, wanting to share my own, and even want to drink from my water bottle. Most times I will say yes begrudgingly.

Firstly, for me, I wouldn't even step out of the house to play any sport if I wasn't fully equipped to do so, least of all would I not take a bottle of water. Even some of the guys I played on the team with lat year would turn up without ball nor water.

I don't (always) go to shoot around with other people, I go to practice by myself. I don't take ball and water for other people to use. I'm not their fcking minder.

I think I loose respect by being a fcking 'waterboy' in this way, especially from teammates. Am I a c*nt or antisocial for not wanting to share resources that I actually need? Or am I indeed being too soft by not saying no? Are these guys needy and or weak as they seem by not providing for themselves, or are they benefitting from people like me being a a soft touch? Thoughts appreciated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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