this one girl

[Pink Panther]

okay, so heres my little ordeal. this girl and i are who are just friends(but shes hot and i wouldnt mind some hanky panky), recently got in this little dissing battle. i thought we were just messing around and of course the disses became sex related. i said something about how she was "handy in michigan" (when she went to michigan she gave some guy a hand job) now shes really mad at me, and i dont want that b/c she is one of my better friends. do i appolagize? do i just keep talking to her as if it never happened? oh yeah, shes what my friends and i call a 'deep see fisher' meaning that she searches for compliments and wants to be the center of attention. do i play into her game?

the other complication is that im really attracted to her and dont wanna **** it up. i know a DJ would just play her off...but im new to this ****. what should i do?

p.s.: i dont expect much to come out of a physical friendship, but i dont wanna ruin our real friendship.

thanks all

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Don't act as it never happened but do not care it happened. Don't give her an apology either. If she's a good friend she won't be angry about it and she'll maybe step down on the attentionfront too after a while...

 

[Pink Panther]

but what do i do when she brings it up? it happened during like 4th period in the library, and she brought it up twice during the rest of the day. is she just trying to sympathize for her? do i just laugh when she does it? should i just tell her to drop it? i know that most girls would just be like "oh fruk you" and leave it at that...damn i hate high school and learning the game

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Pat her on the back and say "I do it myself all the time" or "I give myself one every day"

or if you don't want to play it like that see how she acts and how she brings it up and act accordingly.... Don't be all sobby.

 

[Survivor]

Next time you see her, tell her you didn't mean any harm with the playful diss. Be sincere about it. Then leave her alone and move on with your life. Do not beg and grovel for forgiveness. Its up to her now whether not she wants to continue being "friends".

I think the main problem that you are trying to be a "friend" to a girl you wanna boink. If you had dissed one your guy friends and he got mad, would you be posting on this forum asking for advice? I think not.

One of the principles we have here is for newbies to avoid having "friendships" with women they are attracted to. Such may be good advice for a case like yours.

Nothing is wrong with men and women being friends, but often times our egos make it difficult to accept that we cannot have sex with every woman that we're attracted to, friend or not. Because of that its not wise to be friends with attractive women until you've matured and come to terms with the limitations of your own attractiveness.

Welcome to the forum, Pink Panther. The DJ Bible is on the upper right corner. Its not the epitome of perfection, but its better than nothing. Read. Act. Learn.

 

[Pink Panther]

yeah ive been reading it. good stuff. i suppose what they say in When Harry Met Sally... is true, a guy and a girl cant be friends. there's always that barrier. oh well. thanks to all you cats that posted my help. ill do my best, and dont worry, im not gonna grovel. its her ball.