This is how you deal with flaky women

[sangheilios]

Posted a thread last week about a woman who had ask ME for my number. Last Monday we had made plans to meetup Thursday evening, which led to her flaking out through text a couple hours prior. She had took it upon herself to ask to reschedule for something later this coming week.

Anyway, we had been texting today, Monday, and she was saying how she'd be available Wednesday. I tell her when I'd be able to meetup and then she goes on how about how 9 is too late, so naturally I ask her when she'd be available. I get no response so a couple hours pass and realizing I was wasting my time I say this;

"I have a lot going on and if you aren't able to set aside the time for a date I'm going to leave this here. I'd be open to something casual but nothing more, good luck with whatever you do.".

If a woman isn't able to set aside the time for a simple date then what the hell would it be like actually going out with her lol.

Again, you are not any sort of priority in a woman's life, so cutting your losses early on is important so you don't get strung along to nowhere. Women will waste your time and lead you on, though this isn't so much out of malice but instead from a place from wanting to keep their options open and not wanting to miss out on what could be.

 

[Snake-eyes]

I usually don’t say anything and delete the number. By the time they get back to me I’m like “who’s this?”... to them it stings like hell because they know I’m not with their program. Just my 2 cents on the matter

 

[sangheilios]

I usually don’t say anything and delete the number. By the time they get back to me I’m like “who’s this?”... to them it stings like hell because they know I’m not with their program. Just my 2 cents on the matter

I did it because it made me feel good to express how I actually felt about the whole thing lol. I did in fact delete the numbef and text conversation from my phone, so without having memorized it that is long gone.

It's funny you mention that because about a month ago I had been texting this young woman who was in a relationship, it was for real and not some nonsense she made up. Anyway, I entertained it at first to keep it as something down the road but then I realized that I was encouraging her to engage in bad behavior, and if I was in the bf's shoes I wouldn't want that to be done to me. I deleted the number without saying anything and a few days later I get a hey there and replied with "who is this" lol.

I enjoy giving them a taste of their own medicine lol.

 

[Snake-eyes]

Exactly, specially since in today’s world where they don’t get a lot men to walk away from them. It ****s with their ego big time. Never thought that the power of walking away could be so powerful. Demonstration of higher value

 

[Hal9000]

I hit the road at the first sign of flakiness or craziness. Not worth my time.

 

[Robert28]

I’ve had low interest women claim it was my fault for not chasing them. What I mean is I could tell they had low interest so I quit pursuing, some time goes by and they reach out and wonder where you’ve been. Then they claim “I would have gone out with you again but you never contacted me, so it’s your fault”. No, it’s not MY fault that I could tell your interest was low and I wasn’t going to waste my time and resources on you to raise your interest level. I went and pursued other women that didn’t have low interest. They really will turn their low interest around and make it seem like “you could have had me but you didn’t try hard enough”.lol

 

[sangheilios]

You derailed right after her asking YOU for your number. You had her chasing already. I hope you learned something from this. Another text game death penalty.
Considering the thread title. Id say this is not how its done.

Huh? I did nothing wrong here, the only thing I should have done was just delete the number after she flaked the first time. The only reason I even followed up on it was because she had asked to reschedule, even though I knew that it was very likely to lead to nowhere.

Women where I am at are super flaky and weird, I'm looking forward to my move next year.

 

[dude99]

Thats sogod dam funny this is their nature to a T. I think its fckn hilarious

It is their nature and it is their way to try to get you back on the hook, so they can add or re-add you as orbiter.

I had one do the exact same thing before. " we could have had something but it's your fault i never heard from you." This was after a flake.

My reply "you blew your chance with me. Why would you hear from me?"

 

[Robert28]

Same, the most entitled women in big cities. They're so narcisisstic they actually expect you to submit to beta orbiter status.

Women don’t think 90% of men have any other options except them. I don’t make my other options clear so a lot of women assume they can play games with me and I’ll take it and keep pursuing with all my effort.

 

[nismo-4]

I’ve had low interest women claim it was my fault for not chasing them. What I mean is I could tell they had low interest so I quit pursuing, some time goes by and they reach out and wonder where you’ve been. Then they claim “I would have gone out with you again but you never contacted me, so it’s your fault”. No, it’s not MY fault that I could tell your interest was low and I wasn’t going to waste my time and resources on you to raise your interest level. I went and pursued other women that didn’t have low interest. They really will turn their low interest around and make it seem like “you could have had me but you didn’t try hard enough”.lol

Women see men as Alpha, Useless, or Beta. When she sees you won't be a chasing beta, you wind up useless, as in not getting laid. You're no pushover thankfully.

In these cases, how often does the girl reach back out? Often times, it's to make you beta orbit again, not for sex.

 

[RangerMIke]

I’ve had low interest women claim it was my fault for not chasing them. What I mean is I could tell they had low interest so I quit pursuing, some time goes by and they reach out and wonder where you’ve been. Then they claim “I would have gone out with you again but you never contacted me, so it’s your fault”. No, it’s not MY fault that I could tell your interest was low and I wasn’t going to waste my time and resources on you to raise your interest level. I went and pursued other women that didn’t have low interest. They really will turn their low interest around and make it seem like “you could have had me but you didn’t try hard enough”.lol

LOL!!!! I get flaked on a lot... every chick at some point starts doing this and it's always my fault. I have chicks tell me this all the time... "Why haven't you called?" I usually respond... "Wow, I though the phone worked both ways... my mistake... when are you free?" I joke about it.... Then try to make a date.

Chicks flake... Calling out women on this is a waste of time, because doing stuff like this has ALWAYS in the past gotten them results. With most men, when they flake the dude typically doubles down and starts pursuing them harder, giving them a great ego boost and more control.

If she is flaky and you walk away one of two things will happen... she will reach out then you try to make dates... or she doesn't then you move on to other chicks. Either way you win... she either starts chasing you or you free yourself up to go after other options.

 

[andreihaha]

"Where have all the good men gone?"

"There are no good men left"

…………………...yeah...…..your behavior played no part in this, right? The more men walk away and refuse to tolerate bulllllschitt, the sooner this will change

Don't think this will change too soon.
Because a majority of men don't walk away at the right time, so our efforts as Don Juans or whatever will be immaterial.
The only thing we can do is not tolerate BS from 9s and 10s that are rare, so we change the way THEY think.
From a statistical point of view it's easier, but only in theory.

 

[djthiago1]

I hit the road at the first sign of flakiness or craziness. Not worth my time.

Flakiness is just another word for low IL. NEXT!

 

[AttackFormation]

I’ve had low interest women claim it was my fault for not chasing them. What I mean is I could tell they had low interest so I quit pursuing, some time goes by and they reach out and wonder where you’ve been. Then they claim “I would have gone out with you again but you never contacted me, so it’s your fault”. No, it’s not MY fault that I could tell your interest was low and I wasn’t going to waste my time and resources on you to raise your interest level. I went and pursued other women that didn’t have low interest. They really will turn their low interest around and make it seem like “you could have had me but you didn’t try hard enough”.lol

Same, the most entitled women in big cities. They're so narcisisstic they actually expect you to submit to beta orbiter status.

They may simply be adapting to the game. If more guys learn to recognize beta orbiting and stay away from it, those women would want to update their tactics to maintain their validation ecosystem. If the guy is one crumb away from going back to being a beta orbiter, he'll say to himself "oh! I just didn't try hard enough to be a man" and get right back at it. Having a big validation ecosystem is critical to their lifes to entertain them, medicate their selfesteem, feed their ego and even line up reserves of security and provisioning, they won't let it go easy.

Women don’t think 90% of men have any other options except them.

Well would they normally be wrong about that? lol. As far as I can see we are in a thirst pandemic.