This goes against everything but...

[faiNt`]

Alright so I think I've made up my mind. This situation has been escalating for the past few months and well, I'm truly happy with it. For once I think I found a girl who is actually different. I know, I know; I sound like every other guy on here who think they've found "the one." I'll walk you guys through it and you can let me know what you think.

I've been seeing this girl for 9 months. She was a virgin before we happened. Besides her first kiss, I was every other "first" for her. We've done everything (yes, everything). I love her to death and would be completely fine ending up with her. There are no problems in our relationship except the fact that I see other people at the same time, which she doesn't like. There are two problems with me seeing other people. First, I honesty don't get anything out of it. New pvssy doesn't really entice me. In all honesty, I get more out of kissing her than hooking up with girls at parties, or bringing them back and fvcking their brains out. It's whatever to me and I don't really care. I think I do it simply for the player image, but even that is pointless because I could NEVER see myself with any of these girls. I haven't told her and I'm not sure if I should.

I'm going off to my second semester of college soon and I'm wondering if I should or should not promise to her not to mess with other girls. She real insecure about me doing this and I know it bothers her. As of now, I'm the only person in the world to do anything more than kiss her. I think her actions speak for themselves.

A lot of you are going to say "oneitus" or "see other girls," but like I previously stated, I get nothing out of it. Sure, an orgasm here or there feels good, but I'm starting to care less and less about that and more about my future. I know I'm only 18, but I've been in this community for two years and I've seen a lot of girls in that time. I think I've experienced the single life, and it's not that I don't like it at all, it's just that it's not that great.

I feel like I'm going to do what I want now, instead of just listening to sosuave.com and gaming every hot girl I can, escalating and doing them. With that being said, this is kinda hypocritical because I'm still asking for opinions on what I should do haha. I'm going to go with what I want anyway, but I still would like to know what you guys think about this.

Furthermore, I want to become more of a Don Juan. I want to be able to drop the C&F to an acceptable level, because right now it seems to have become who I am. I find myself resorting to it at all times and now it's just a reaction really. I'm neg hitting way too much, especially on this girl who I care about. She's just as sarcastic as me, which is another reason I can't stand other girls: they just don't have a personality that even comes close. I want to become a nicer person. Some where deep down I think it's impossible for me to become an AFC again. This is a rather funny concept too, because this girl who I've been talking about said she had a crush on me way back in my AFC days too, I just didn't have the balls to tell her I liked her. I know these are just words, but the way she outlined her actions through them, it was really obvious.

There's probably more, but that's all I can remember right now. Hit me guys.

TL;DR - read the bold and then the surrounding text for context clues

 

[Iceberg]

A lot of you are going to say "oneitus" or "see other girls," but like I previously stated, I get nothing out of it. Sure, an orgasm here or there feels good, but I'm starting to care less and less about that and more about my future. I know I'm only 18, but I've been in this community for two years and I've seen a lot of girls in that time. I think I've experienced the single life, and it's not that I don't like it at all, it's just that it's not that great.

You're 18 and you're doing what a man your age should be. Not limiting yourself to one woman. Not getting too swept up in the Hollywood idea of "love".

I mean, you say that you've experienced the single life and that it's not that great. But even that sounds like something an 18 year old would say....because you think you've been through a lot, but in reality you haven't experienced s**t. And I mean that in the nicest way possible. It's just something I probably would have said at your age too. Because at 18, all you know is the world through the eyes of an 18 year old.

Either way, I can't comment too much on your relationship. You can commit to her all you want. Promise her the world. You can whisper sweet nothings into her ear. But in reality, you're going to change a lot in the next 5 -10 years. And so is she. So from a logical standpoint, there's not much use in planning a future together. But in the meantime, you should enjoy each other. Maybe you'll beat the odds and stay in love, and settle down together, etc. Maybe that will REALLY be what you want when you start to mature more. It's not likely, but anything can happen I guess.

When it comes to you thinking that you've "experienced the single life" at 18, you'll just have to go out and learn the hard way. Not sure there's much that I can verbally say that'll change you. Enjoy women. Enjoy your girlfriend. Just remember that who you are today, and your likes/dislikes will change A LOT before you even hit 30. You're still a teenager, bro. Whether you want to admit it to yourself or not.

 

[Nemic]

My sole advice is don't even think of a serious monogamous LTR until you are AT LEAST 25 years old. Cast your line, and reel em in. At under 25 you should enjoy your life, and live it up.

From 18-24 people are in a completely different mindset then when they hit 24/25. She *WILL* change over the next 3 years and you may or may not want the reinvented her. And you will reinvent yourself in the next 3 years.

Experiencing life is the only way to appreciate it. Enjoy your current life of limited responsibilities, extra free time, and improve your game. You will not regret it in the least.

Remember this.
Women have an expiration date. Men do not.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Your goin off to college?? Your life is about to change completely bro. Go to university first, then come back to me.

 

[faiNt`]

My sole advice is don't even think of a serious monogamous LTR until you are AT LEAST 25 years old. Cast your line, and reel em in. At under 25 you should enjoy your life, and live it up.

From 18-24 people are in a completely different mindset then when they hit 24/25. She *WILL* change over the next 3 years and you may or may not want the reinvented her. And you will reinvent yourself in the next 3 years.

Experiencing life is the only way to appreciate it. Enjoy your current life of limited responsibilities, extra free time, and improve your game. You will not regret it in the least.

Remember this.
Women have an expiration date. Men do not.

Thanks for that. She tells me she is changing, but I still see the same girl I've been with thus far. It's just the fact that we're so alike and compatible that I don't see the point of trying with other girls when I don't get any satisfaction out of it.

You're 18 and you're doing what a man your age should be. Not limiting yourself to one woman. Not getting too swept up in the Hollywood idea of "love".

I mean, you say that you've experienced the single life and that it's not that great. But even that sounds like something an 18 year old would say....because you think you've been through a lot, but in reality you haven't experienced s**t. And I mean that in the nicest way possible. It's just something I probably would have said at your age too. Because at 18, all you know is the world through the eyes of an 18 year old.

Either way, I can't comment too much on your relationship. You can commit to her all you want. Promise her the world. You can whisper sweet nothings into her ear. But in reality, you're going to change a lot in the next 5 -10 years. And so is she. So from a logical standpoint, there's not much use in planning a future together. But in the meantime, you should enjoy each other. Maybe you'll beat the odds and stay in love, and settle down together, etc. Maybe that will REALLY be what you want when you start to mature more. It's not likely, but anything can happen I guess.

When it comes to you thinking that you've "experienced the single life" at 18, you'll just have to go out and learn the hard way. Not sure there's much that I can verbally say that'll change you. Enjoy women. Enjoy your girlfriend. Just remember that who you are today, and your likes/dislikes will change A LOT before you even hit 30. You're still a teenager, bro. Whether you want to admit it to yourself or not.

I agree partially because my parents say the same thing haha. They say I act like I know it all and I'm only 18 etc. I know I don't, but what I do know thus far stems from my experiences. I know what I'm capable of, and that I can really do anything I put my mind to. Currently, I derive close to zero pleasure or purpose from random hooks/other girls. I don't see the point because I figure any girl that is susceptible to my "game" would go home with any guy if he says the right things on a particular night. I loose respect instantly on that note.

Your goin off to college?? Your life is about to change completely bro. Go to university first, then come back to me.

I've been there for a semester already. I've experienced the single life at college. Yes there are girls, but like I said, I can't say I even care. I haven't met anyone yet who I would remotely consider a relationship with. They just aren't compatible with me, and I find myself attempting to replicate my relationship with the girl I've been seeing. Things I say, or do, or situations I try to create, it's all based on what I feel for this girl. That's why I say there's absolutely no point.

 

[Iceberg]

I agree partially because my parents say the same thing haha. They say I act like I know it all and I'm only 18 etc. I know I don't, but what I do know thus far stems from my experiences. I know what I'm capable of, and that I can really do anything I put my mind to. Currently, I derive close to zero pleasure or purpose from random hooks/other girls. I don't see the point because I figure any girl that is susceptible to my "game" would go home with any guy if he says the right things on a particular night. I loose respect instantly on that note.

It's not that I'm saying you need to go out and hook up with 100 random girls. I'm just saying that your girlfriend, as you know her today, probably won't be the same person when she's 25 or 30. I'm saying that perhaps you get bored of her. Maybe she gets bored of you. Maybe you grow apart.

Maybe you'll dump your girl, be single for a while, and wait for the next relationship-worthy girl to come along. One that meets the needs of the 22 year old you and not the 18-year old you.

That's where I'm going. Not that you need to have random hookups. But the fact that you'll change as you mature, and who knows what a more mature FaiNt will be into.

I mean, hey, I hope it works out the exact way you want it to. I just know how unlikely that is.

 

[cordoncordon]

I was about to say there is nothing wrong with not seeing anyone else, telling your girl this, and devoting yourself 100% to that relationship. Then I saw you were 18, and I hesitated. But the more I think about it, when I was 18, myself and many of my friends were involved in one on one relationships, and we were all pretty happy.

Not saying you will ever marry this girl, because chances are .0000000000001% that you will, but hey, do what you want. If you are happy being with this girl, and can devote yourself to the relationship and not cheat, then do it bro.