"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This chick at my uni

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Would love my fellow DJ's to give me an honest option for this situation.


There's a girl in my uni, 3 years younger that I've known for an year. Randomly talked to her at the gym and exchanged numbers. At some point she didn't respond to my text and I didn't wanna chase and was seeing other girls then so I didn't text again.

Now we live in the same hall, had a long conversation the other day and she smiles when she sees me. She's fit and speaks good English, something very rare where I live. Now I'm seeing other girls while all of this is happening so the not getting her doesn't mean too much.

The only thing stopping me from talking to her online( that probably shouldn't) is if she rejects its gonna be embarrassing bumping into her every now and then. We don't have any common friends but I don't wanna look like a ****ing idiot when I see her.

But then again, at least that way I went for what I wanted and maybe a source of me feeling this way is not being in a similar situation before

Advice and give me an honest critique
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Would love my fellow DJ's to give me an honest option for this situation.


There's a girl in my uni, 3 years younger that I've known for an year. Randomly talked to her at the gym and exchanged numbers. At some point she didn't respond to my text and I didn't wanna chase and was seeing other girls then so I didn't text again.

Now we live in the same hall, had a long conversation the other day and she smiles when she sees me. She's fit and speaks good English, something very rare where I live. Now I'm seeing other girls while all of this is happening so the not getting her doesn't mean too much.

The only thing stopping me from talking to her online( that probably shouldn't) is if she rejects its gonna be embarrassing bumping into her every now and then. We don't have any common friends but I don't wanna look like a ****ing idiot when I see her.

But then again, at least that way I went for what I wanted and maybe a source of me feeling this way is not being in a similar situation before

Advice and give me an honest critique
I'm the type of guy who believes in one chance per lifetime. So she already blew it as far as I'm concerned and i would only go after girls who showed genuine interest.

But not everyone her is a one chance guy here like me and some will go for it a second time.

If you are like me and she ignored your texts and you movednon, then you say hello to her in the hallway talk about the weather then move on with your day.

If you want to take another kick at the can then say to her "going to such and such for drinks. Meet me there at 7pm." If she is interested she will go. If she isnt she won't.

Bottom line is, you are seeing other women so you won't care what she thinks.
 

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I'm the type of guy who believes in one chance per lifetime. So she already blew it as far as I'm concerned and i would only go after girls who showed genuine interest.

But not everyone her is a one chance guy here like me and some will go for it a second time.

If you are like me and she ignored your texts and you movednon, then you say hello to her in the hallway talk about the weather then move on with your day.

If you want to take another kick at the can then say to her "going to such and such for drinks. Meet me there at 7pm." If she is interested she will go. If she isnt she won't.

Bottom line is, you are seeing other women so you won't care what she thinks.
on point man. Acting needy has never worked. If they are interested they show it one way or the other.

I decided to chat her up, if she showed interest In a couple of texts I'd ask her out, if not I wouldn't. She didn't so doesn't matter.
 

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on point man. Acting needy has never worked. If they are interested they show it one way or the other.

I decided to chat her up, if she showed interest In a couple of texts I'd ask her out, if not I wouldn't. She didn't so doesn't matter.
Be direct. Take charge. If she flakes delete her number.
 
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