Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The ultimate 'negs' book (Any NPR listeners here? plz read)

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So I happened to be listening to 'morning edition' one morning about a year to a year and a half ago and they had a male and a female author talking about a book they had written completely full of 'backhanded compliments' and such that women use on one another.. All of them were highly plausible deniable cutdowns and self-esteem questioning things, and I thought it sounded pretty amusing at the time, but didn't bother to make a mental note of the author names or the title.. Im hoping someone here might know it, because all my efforts to search for it (google, amazon.com, etc) have lead me nowhere.. I know it has a male and female author, and I know that description that I gave, but have found it difficult to come up with 'search terms' to describe it accurately (other than backhanded compliments which didnt turn up much)..

Heeelp, pleeease! These things would likely step up anyone's game in conjunction with the 'MM' style thinking..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm not really sure of the book you're talking about, but DAMN, that WOULD be quite an asset for my game, (mostly MM mixed with Zan'ish' stuff). But, MM's game doesn't really heavily on negs. As in, you can only use at max, 3-5 negs in any given set. And some of those may be disqualifiers, and not even negs.
Even so, if you find that book, that would be AWESOME!
 

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