The shape of the container

[BaronOfHair]

Not a bad book, for its time.

The gist of his observations continue to hold up, even as we've discovered that there are more layers and nuances to the subject in question

 

[jhonny9546]

Make sure it's not a mask.

We were talking about people who need to threath a relationship with your partner like a "networking" one.
So You want to keep a mask in that case.
So are you saying that you need to keep your mask, faking your intimacy, and make sure she has no mask?
wdym?

 

[jhonny9546]

By wearing a mask, I do not mean the bare minimum you have to do in your life like: (Wheter you be men or women)
- Try to be financial indipendent
- Get and keep your body fit
- Eating healthy
- Have a good sense of looks
- Other healthy habits.


By wearing a mask I do mean more like "conversational" thing.
So when you are netwroking with people because of your job, or to iincrease your social circle, you want to wear a mask, but within your partner, you have to remove the mask, do meaningful conversation.
In this case you want to estabilish deep relationships with few people in your life. (family, close friends, partner)
Or do you guys only live with the mask?

 

[BaronOfHair]

By wearing a mask, I do not mean the bare minimum you have to do in your life like: (Wheter you be men or women)
- Try to be financial indipendent
- Get and keep your body fit
- Eating healthy
- Have a good sense of looks
- Other healthy habits.


By wearing a mask I do mean more like "conversational" thing.
So when you are netwroking with people because of your job, or to iincrease your social circle, you want to wear a mask, but within your partner, you have to remove the mask, do meaningful conversation.
In this case you want to estabilish deep relationships with few people in your life. (family, close friends, partner)
Or do you guys only live with the mask?

Are you and GM https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...me-to-try-with-making-moves-in-person.282277/ competing for a gold medal in the Analysis Paralysis Championship?

This isn't complicated, J:

If your goal is to increase your social network/Link up with folks who can move you forward in life, then "Yes"... You do have to take a calculated approach, and behave in ways that will increase the liklihood that formidable people will find associating with you desirable

Call that "manipulation" and "wearing a mask" if you want. This is how the human race has operated from the beginning, and will continue to do so in the future

 

[jhonny9546]

Call that "manipulation" and "wearing a mask" if you want. This is how the human race has operated from the beginning, and will continue to do so in the future

What if this is not natural to your behaviour?
Example:
If I see someone who ask for help I'll go help.

So its common for me to help, and If i do not, I'll think like all day "I could've helped" etc..

I mean, you might want to force it, but wouldn't you lose respect for yourself?
How did you manage to do it?