"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The same consistent problem as of lately.

Bally Roger

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So I've been interested in several girls lately. And, i seem to have the same problem with all of them, so I need some wisdom.

For example, I met an absolutely sunning girl outside a bar, did the CF thing. Got her number, took her on a date to a very romantic spot which she loved. Before taking her home, I kissed her and she kissed back several times. She had already said she wanted to go out with me next weekend, and then we kissed at her doorstep. I text her on Wednesday afternoon to see if she's still gonna be going out with me next weekend. No reply at all yet.

This wouldn't bug me, but it does because I need to know what I did wrong so I can fix this problem before wasting my time on too many girls. But, I would like to have a go at this one, 'cause she seems good.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mahoney

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1) Did you make concrete or vague plans to meet next weekend?

if concrete plans then a text so soon was not necessary. If vague plans then the text should have been concrete not also vague - ie it should be more about what is going to happen next weekend, and not one that merely makes sure its still happening (thats repetition, no new information)

2) That being said, you only texted wednesday afternoon - i dont know what time zone you are in or how long ago this was where you are but...seriously, dudes need to stop expecting texts back quite so quickly. it sort of depends on the content of the text you sent, but let a girl respond in her own time!
 

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Here's how I see it. You texted her to see if she still wanted to go out with you after she already said she wanted to, right? Got it. But by asking if she still wanted to, you inadvertently gave her the option of choosing not to go out with you, so she took it. Why wouldn't she? It's the easy route to take in this situation.

Next time as the previous poster said, make concrete plans. But maybe, I'm wrong, and you still have time, and she'll text you back.

Patience is a Virtue.
 
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