factfindingmission
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I hear a lot of talk on these boards about how to act around women. What sort of behavior is the right combination that'll make her want to stay with you? What sort of attitude is truly Alpha?
Let me explain a few things:
1)Never lay down ground rules for the girl you're with. Women are perfectly capable of knowing what's right or wrong behavior. They don't need you to tell them. By setting out rules, you automatically look weak. I know that's hard for some of you to understand, but it's true. It shows that you're overly concerned about keeping her and this puts you in the lower postion within the relationship. Stay cool and watch what happens.
2) When she does step out of line, don't react. Now understand, I didn't say "don't react negatively", I said DON'T REACT PERIOD. She knows her behavior is out of line and doesn't need you to tell her. Simply ignore it and go about your business. For example.....If you go to the bathroom and your girl is talking to some guy when you come out, simply walk away and start talking to other people. I don't care whether you know these people or not, just strike up a conversation with someone and have a good time. Don't mention it to her afterwards either.
3) Testing you once in awhile is female nature. But, if she does it too many times or pushes it too far, this is what you do. DISAPPEAR. Let her call you and when she asks "what's wrong?" Tell her absolutely nothing. Make up some excuse that you've been busy or that you had something unexpected come up. She knows damn well what's wrong, she just wants you to say it. You never punish a woman by yelling at her, you do it by withdrawing your attention.
Also, if you see too many red flags, GET OUT FAST. Don't discuss it with her. Don't take her calls or listen to her BS excuses..simply cut off contact and never go back again. Believe me, if she's doing these things, she's not someone you want to marry. By giving her NOTHING when you leave, you've not only saved yourself a lot of trouble, but you've gotten the best revenge. Wome love drama and when you leave and don't say a word, you'll deprive her not only of that, but of any kind of closure. She'll always wonder why you didn't react and perhaps she'll treat the next guy she's with better.
I hope this helped some of you. Believe me, by not reacting, you'll create a bigger and better impression than any amount of arguing could create.
Let me explain a few things:
1)Never lay down ground rules for the girl you're with. Women are perfectly capable of knowing what's right or wrong behavior. They don't need you to tell them. By setting out rules, you automatically look weak. I know that's hard for some of you to understand, but it's true. It shows that you're overly concerned about keeping her and this puts you in the lower postion within the relationship. Stay cool and watch what happens.
2) When she does step out of line, don't react. Now understand, I didn't say "don't react negatively", I said DON'T REACT PERIOD. She knows her behavior is out of line and doesn't need you to tell her. Simply ignore it and go about your business. For example.....If you go to the bathroom and your girl is talking to some guy when you come out, simply walk away and start talking to other people. I don't care whether you know these people or not, just strike up a conversation with someone and have a good time. Don't mention it to her afterwards either.
3) Testing you once in awhile is female nature. But, if she does it too many times or pushes it too far, this is what you do. DISAPPEAR. Let her call you and when she asks "what's wrong?" Tell her absolutely nothing. Make up some excuse that you've been busy or that you had something unexpected come up. She knows damn well what's wrong, she just wants you to say it. You never punish a woman by yelling at her, you do it by withdrawing your attention.
Also, if you see too many red flags, GET OUT FAST. Don't discuss it with her. Don't take her calls or listen to her BS excuses..simply cut off contact and never go back again. Believe me, if she's doing these things, she's not someone you want to marry. By giving her NOTHING when you leave, you've not only saved yourself a lot of trouble, but you've gotten the best revenge. Wome love drama and when you leave and don't say a word, you'll deprive her not only of that, but of any kind of closure. She'll always wonder why you didn't react and perhaps she'll treat the next guy she's with better.
I hope this helped some of you. Believe me, by not reacting, you'll create a bigger and better impression than any amount of arguing could create.
