PeterNorthisawesome
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Bottom line Band is cool for some people and not for others, Viper and Adone stop b*tching like two old ladies. To the quiet guy don't give a f*ck and start being more social and get practice.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
the quiet guy
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Viper
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Well, that's your opinion about it, but overall, "cool" implies that YOU like something, in other words, some people might think something is cool, but other people might not think that thing is cool, it's not something that's percieved by something that people generally like and if it is, well, screw being cool, I'm good with being an individual and I'm not going to do something I don't like, just to be perceived as cool by other people.
Flabbergasped?
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Viper has invaded this thread.
Again.
Again.
Viper
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And flabbergasped has just made a stupid post, which does nothing to contribute to the topic, big surprise? Not really. You guys just have to learn to ACCEPT when you're wrong. You can't possibly be right, because if you're definition of cool, is what's generally considered cool by the majority, you've been thinking incorrectly. If that was the definition of cool, people would use the word much differently.
taiwanesedude227
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lol i am laughing so loud right now. viper if you think band is cool and you don't care what others think why do you feel the need to constantly repeat it to everyone? why do you care if other people think it's lame?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is pathetic.
Another 'Viper vs. The anti-vipers' thread. Why can't you guys just give it a break? (Remember that old quote? 'Discussion forum arguments are like the special olympics; win or lose, in the end you're all retards.' I apologise to all the retards out there). The whole second page of this thread is about 'band is cool/gay'. Worst of all, this isn't the first time this topic has appeared. Just leave it.
Would a real Don Juan care about what somebody types on a message board? Didn't think so.
Another 'Viper vs. The anti-vipers' thread. Why can't you guys just give it a break? (Remember that old quote? 'Discussion forum arguments are like the special olympics; win or lose, in the end you're all retards.' I apologise to all the retards out there). The whole second page of this thread is about 'band is cool/gay'. Worst of all, this isn't the first time this topic has appeared. Just leave it.
Would a real Don Juan care about what somebody types on a message board? Didn't think so.
The special olympics metaphor is gold
Anyway, when I replied to Viper, I wasn't focusing on whether the band is cool or not (since everyone knows it's lame
j/k), I was trying to make him understand that he doesn't have to answer to EVERYTHING! Whenever someone makes his name, he will answer and look like a loser who gets offended by people he doesn't even know talking about him.Viper
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You know what I have to say? Let's just end it, because it really doesn't matter.
we all eat food
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umm guys, this thread is to help me out and give me advice, not to have some "interent ego fight" grow up please.
Well you might be able to grow out of it. I went to a small rural school through 8th grade. When I got to high school my social skills sucked pretty bad. I had zero confidence. But very slowly I started making some friends.
I become a lot more vocal in front of people if I knew they liked me. Since I knew they liked me I could act however I wanted. And it felt GREAT coming out of my shell. Alcohol helped me quite a bit too helping me come out of my shell.
Now I'm at college and I've made tons of friends.
So keep plugging you'll get there someday.
I become a lot more vocal in front of people if I knew they liked me. Since I knew they liked me I could act however I wanted. And it felt GREAT coming out of my shell. Alcohol helped me quite a bit too helping me come out of my shell.
Now I'm at college and I've made tons of friends.
So keep plugging you'll get there someday.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.