"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The purpose of having beliefs?

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I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

I have come to the conclusion that beliefs are useless.

The only thing they bring into your life is the negative feelings from seeing them destroyed.

This includes beliefs about the world, society, people, myself, future, past, and everything else that comprises reality.

Personal growth only comes from overcoming your fears.

Constantly facing my fears, this is the life I've started to lead.

I'm no longer separated from the world.

It is no longer MY life, its A life. Because whatever created it will take it back, therefore it doesn't belong to me.

This means there's no me, this being is just a space where life resides in.

Do you still see the benefit of having beliefs?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I believe it's dangerous to swim in a storm.

I believe in giving the right of way to the biggest idiot on the road.


If you don't have beliefs you could drown or be a part of statistic.
 

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I once heard some say "pretend for a moment that all your beliefs have been completely destroyed". I couldn't understand what the purpose of this was.
 

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Drdeee said:
I believe it's dangerous to swim in a storm.

I believe in giving the right of way to the biggest idiot on the road.


If you don't have beliefs you could drown or be a part of statistic.
You're describing knowledge. Knowledge comes from fact, belief comes from opinion, even if its based on facts.

Examples of beliefs:
I believe I'm a great swimmer.
I believe I'm a great driver.

...Until you're proven wrong.

I advocate DOING, with no type of belief behind it.
 

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Sounds a lot like existentialism: basically, constructing your own meaning out of life based on what you immediately experience, without any abstract beliefs.

On another note, to say that nothing happens after you die and you cease to exist, that there is nothing existent beyond what we can materially see and experience, is also a belief. We don't really know that there is not a transcendent dimension that is beyond our powers of perception and logic.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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omkara said:
Sounds a lot like existentialism: basically, constructing your own meaning out of life based on what you immediately experience, without any abstract beliefs.

On another note, to say that nothing happens after you die and you cease to exist, that there is nothing existent beyond what we can materially see and experience, is also a belief. We don't really know that there is not a transcendent dimension that is beyond our powers of perception and logic.
You're right. Now that I look at it, it is a belief.
 

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Everyone has beliefs. It's impossible to not hold beliefs—it's literally hard-wired into our brains. Beliefs keep you alive and happy, pure skepticism and disbelief is impossible, and you would miss out on the grandeur of life and the cosmos of all the things which are indeed true. There are good beliefs and bad beliefs; rock solid beliefs and flimsy beliefs; healthy beliefs and malignant beliefs. The answer isn't to disbelieve everything but to develop skills to discern between good beliefs/good possibilities, and baloney. In the words of the Scottish philosopher David Hume, "A wise man proportions his belief to the evidence."
 
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