Adapted from a variety fo sources on the 'mind', particularly NLP, Hypnosis, Psychoybernetics, and Motivational, I have drawan some conclusions on why challenge works, and so for those who haven't yet understood the 'why' and 'how' of it, I am opening a post to solidify that.
It came upon me last night, in fact, experienced first hand. The value which we place upon something is in direction proportion to how difficult it is in getting in. Meaning, if you have goal of earning $250,000 next year for 2005 (as I do), then it's BIG FREAKING GOAL. But, isn't it motivational? Doesn't it get the mind churning in all the ways to MAKE THAT POSSIBLE? To hit that mark...
-Trade the stock market.
-Start a business.
-Enter the R/E investment field.
-Become a sales person on high-end products or fast bucks.
-Sell drugs.
-Gamble.
-Royalties, Licensing, etc.
Then you begin to dig inside yourself to find out 'how' can I do this. I know it happens to me. Whenever I sit lethargically going "well, I got all I need," I get rather depressed, so I go back to myself and ask where can I improve? For us human specimens, growth (like an acorn growing into a tree) is done not in bodies, because that happens whether we force it or not, but in life. Our lives are our growth. Making more money is a great cause if it increase our life. Well, to have more life you need more of the substance that supports human life, money. So our personal growth is growth of life, increased friends, better health, more knowledge, etc.
And so I set forth to making big goals, and realized THESE are possible, and if they're not, do you lose anything by only falling short of them?
NO!
Well, if the human mind, according to Maxwell Maltz is a "goal-seeking mechanism" that sets its sights on whatever it thinks about and zeroes in on it until it's accomplished, then doesn't the same thing happen to women in dating, too?
Don't think of a black BMW 745i with 22" rims.
Did you?
Britney Spears.
Did you envision her, too?
You see, the mind will first VISUALIZE whatever it has to, regardless of the command. This is why NLP is so important. When you're told NOT to do something, you FIRST have to do it, envision, and realize, to NOT do it.
For those rAFC, and AFC's, when you're focusing on the problems you have women, it only BREEDS MORE problems. When you're focusing on WHAT NOT TO DO WRONG, you have to DO it, to NOT DO IT. STOP.
Focus on what it is you should be doing...
-having fun.
-noticing things about her, mannerisms, quirks, so you can play off them.
-notice unique attributes.
True listening to me, is hearing what they say and making a mental connection between what I know/understand and what they said. Just last night I went to visit a girl I'm casually seeing and she was mentioning her upcoming b-day with a co-worker. The co-worker was there with her, and looked familiar, so I said:
Me: You look familiar, where are you from?
Her: I said the same thing, where are you from?
Me: Lowell. You?
Her: Arlington.
Me: Do you know_____?
And it turned out she did. By virtue of listening and making that mental connection I was able to gain instant rapport. We chatted for another 15 minutes and it turned out she knew alot of people I do and was able to put me in touch with a long lost college pal. Beautiful! Not to mention, she'll have some respect to watch out for my gal while they're at the strip clubs on her b-day.
Moving on...
If our minds are goal-seeking torpedos, would it make sense that women also have the same chemistry? Maybe it's not as INTENSE as a man's, but surely we ALL know women who when the desire a pair of pants, a hairstyle, clothing, nail jobs, a car, THEY FIND A WAY TO GET IT. Maybe they moan to their father, their boyfriend, their mother, or even rack up the credit card to get it. Whatever means they use, they use it and get it.
Then what happens?
She hates the hairstyle. Or she disrespects the $700 pocket book. I even knew an X-GF of my buddy who got the BMW she wanted, had it for a few months and blew the engine up. She was forced to get rides from friends and her parents. Later on, he was getting it fixed and he didn't want it, but wouldn't pay the payments on it anymore. He offered it to her. Know how she got it?
She charged the repairs of the engine to her father's credit card, well over $5,000, and assumed the remaining loan payments, plus insurance. Now, she's financially strapped, nearing bankruptcy all for a car she wanted, disrespected, and then wanted again!
You could pose the argument that women are into superficial, material goods and her emotions got the best of her, and even if that's the case, who are we to dispute or even tell her what she wants or doesn't want? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. If you're gonna tell a woman what she wants or doesn't want, you better be in her confidence, i.e. boyfriend, lover, husband, brother, cousin, etc, because few girls will tolerate being told what to do or what to hear without getting *****y.
If you play what the emotional mind wants, then you can't HELP BUT fall into line with what she'll go after. Look at your own self. Our minds are goal-seeking mechanisms, and whatever you think of you become. If you focus on getting fawked up everyweek, what do you do? If you focus on acquiring more business or more knowledge, isn't your mind intune with that? I know mine is, I've met alot of great people on here (Vesti, Drex, others included) who have been like-minded. Keeping your mind open to these things present opportunities because THEY ALREADY WERE THERE, YOU JUST MISSED IT BECAUSE YOU WERE THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE.
To understand challenge, understand WE ALL enjoy a challenge. If you set a goal to earn $10,000 this year, is it really motivating? Do you get inspired to grow? NO! Because what improvement would $10,000 make in your life? Maybe you could eat and workout, but what a new car? A new house? New clothes? The result of that goal isn't motivational.
If you set a goal that within a year you wanted to be in a bodybuilding competition and are now 20lbs overweight, isn't that motivational? SHYT yes! YOUR WHOLE LIFE CHANGES. You measure food portions, organize a structured workout program, and generally refocus EVERYTHING. What's the result of the goal now? Unbelievable self-empowerment. Women fawning over you. A new found confidence to do anything. And remarkable health.
If you were the object of a womans' desire, a man seen to make her wildest dreams come true, wouldn't she more mountains to make that happen? Wouldn't you do that for a woman who you felt would make all your wildest imaginations come true? SHYT yes!
Challenge is right. Challenge is true. Challenge is natural. And challenge is the AUTOMATIC result of big things, big goals, and big dreams. It's not AUTOMATIC from wimpy things, which is why a 'nice guy' doesn't insight any goal-seeking within her.
End of Part !
A-Unit
It came upon me last night, in fact, experienced first hand. The value which we place upon something is in direction proportion to how difficult it is in getting in. Meaning, if you have goal of earning $250,000 next year for 2005 (as I do), then it's BIG FREAKING GOAL. But, isn't it motivational? Doesn't it get the mind churning in all the ways to MAKE THAT POSSIBLE? To hit that mark...
-Trade the stock market.
-Start a business.
-Enter the R/E investment field.
-Become a sales person on high-end products or fast bucks.
-Sell drugs.
-Gamble.
-Royalties, Licensing, etc.
Then you begin to dig inside yourself to find out 'how' can I do this. I know it happens to me. Whenever I sit lethargically going "well, I got all I need," I get rather depressed, so I go back to myself and ask where can I improve? For us human specimens, growth (like an acorn growing into a tree) is done not in bodies, because that happens whether we force it or not, but in life. Our lives are our growth. Making more money is a great cause if it increase our life. Well, to have more life you need more of the substance that supports human life, money. So our personal growth is growth of life, increased friends, better health, more knowledge, etc.
And so I set forth to making big goals, and realized THESE are possible, and if they're not, do you lose anything by only falling short of them?
NO!
Well, if the human mind, according to Maxwell Maltz is a "goal-seeking mechanism" that sets its sights on whatever it thinks about and zeroes in on it until it's accomplished, then doesn't the same thing happen to women in dating, too?
Don't think of a black BMW 745i with 22" rims.
Did you?
Britney Spears.
Did you envision her, too?
You see, the mind will first VISUALIZE whatever it has to, regardless of the command. This is why NLP is so important. When you're told NOT to do something, you FIRST have to do it, envision, and realize, to NOT do it.
For those rAFC, and AFC's, when you're focusing on the problems you have women, it only BREEDS MORE problems. When you're focusing on WHAT NOT TO DO WRONG, you have to DO it, to NOT DO IT. STOP.
Focus on what it is you should be doing...
-having fun.
-noticing things about her, mannerisms, quirks, so you can play off them.
-notice unique attributes.
True listening to me, is hearing what they say and making a mental connection between what I know/understand and what they said. Just last night I went to visit a girl I'm casually seeing and she was mentioning her upcoming b-day with a co-worker. The co-worker was there with her, and looked familiar, so I said:
Me: You look familiar, where are you from?
Her: I said the same thing, where are you from?
Me: Lowell. You?
Her: Arlington.
Me: Do you know_____?
And it turned out she did. By virtue of listening and making that mental connection I was able to gain instant rapport. We chatted for another 15 minutes and it turned out she knew alot of people I do and was able to put me in touch with a long lost college pal. Beautiful! Not to mention, she'll have some respect to watch out for my gal while they're at the strip clubs on her b-day.
Moving on...
If our minds are goal-seeking torpedos, would it make sense that women also have the same chemistry? Maybe it's not as INTENSE as a man's, but surely we ALL know women who when the desire a pair of pants, a hairstyle, clothing, nail jobs, a car, THEY FIND A WAY TO GET IT. Maybe they moan to their father, their boyfriend, their mother, or even rack up the credit card to get it. Whatever means they use, they use it and get it.
Then what happens?
She hates the hairstyle. Or she disrespects the $700 pocket book. I even knew an X-GF of my buddy who got the BMW she wanted, had it for a few months and blew the engine up. She was forced to get rides from friends and her parents. Later on, he was getting it fixed and he didn't want it, but wouldn't pay the payments on it anymore. He offered it to her. Know how she got it?
She charged the repairs of the engine to her father's credit card, well over $5,000, and assumed the remaining loan payments, plus insurance. Now, she's financially strapped, nearing bankruptcy all for a car she wanted, disrespected, and then wanted again!
You could pose the argument that women are into superficial, material goods and her emotions got the best of her, and even if that's the case, who are we to dispute or even tell her what she wants or doesn't want? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. If you're gonna tell a woman what she wants or doesn't want, you better be in her confidence, i.e. boyfriend, lover, husband, brother, cousin, etc, because few girls will tolerate being told what to do or what to hear without getting *****y.
If you play what the emotional mind wants, then you can't HELP BUT fall into line with what she'll go after. Look at your own self. Our minds are goal-seeking mechanisms, and whatever you think of you become. If you focus on getting fawked up everyweek, what do you do? If you focus on acquiring more business or more knowledge, isn't your mind intune with that? I know mine is, I've met alot of great people on here (Vesti, Drex, others included) who have been like-minded. Keeping your mind open to these things present opportunities because THEY ALREADY WERE THERE, YOU JUST MISSED IT BECAUSE YOU WERE THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE.
To understand challenge, understand WE ALL enjoy a challenge. If you set a goal to earn $10,000 this year, is it really motivating? Do you get inspired to grow? NO! Because what improvement would $10,000 make in your life? Maybe you could eat and workout, but what a new car? A new house? New clothes? The result of that goal isn't motivational.
If you set a goal that within a year you wanted to be in a bodybuilding competition and are now 20lbs overweight, isn't that motivational? SHYT yes! YOUR WHOLE LIFE CHANGES. You measure food portions, organize a structured workout program, and generally refocus EVERYTHING. What's the result of the goal now? Unbelievable self-empowerment. Women fawning over you. A new found confidence to do anything. And remarkable health.
If you were the object of a womans' desire, a man seen to make her wildest dreams come true, wouldn't she more mountains to make that happen? Wouldn't you do that for a woman who you felt would make all your wildest imaginations come true? SHYT yes!
Challenge is right. Challenge is true. Challenge is natural. And challenge is the AUTOMATIC result of big things, big goals, and big dreams. It's not AUTOMATIC from wimpy things, which is why a 'nice guy' doesn't insight any goal-seeking within her.
End of Part !
A-Unit
