The ONLY sign for you to know that you are in a GOOD RELATIONSHIP

[The Assistant]

This applies to any guy who is in a relationship with a girl, whether it be married, just an LTR, or an engagement.

The only real sign you need to see that you're in a good, if not great relationship, is the following:

You don't even have any thoughts about asking anyone for any kind of ADVICE on your relationship

If the bold above is not true for you, then you are not ready for a relationship, and should only be using women for sex at this time - otherwise you will be sucked into disaster, and that is my 100% personal guarantee.

 

[Brighty]

This applies to any guy who is in a relationship with a girl, whether it be married, just an LTR, or an engagement.

The only real sign you need to see that you're in a good, if not great relationship, is the following:

You don't even have any thoughts about asking anyone for any kind of ADVICE on your relationship

If the bold above is not true for you, then you are not ready for a relationship, and should only be using women for sex at this time - otherwise you will be sucked into disaster, and that is my 100% personal guarantee.

I agree with this, to a point. There can be gray areas and they may be entirely irrelevant to the relationship, sometimes it helps to have an outsider look at a scenario unbiasedly and help put it into perspective.

Case in point - I was in a relationship when I was in high school and my girlfriend had more sexual partners than me. She had been with three guys, all long term boyfriends, including me. She was my first. Looking back now its funny how I thought that being with three guys was a huge, disgusting number, but that was just because I was inexperienced and insecure. The relationship itself was great, she was great. If I hadnt of asked for advice from a few close friends and had them put it into perspective, I don't know what would've happened. My jealousy/insecurity might have ruined one of my best relationships.

 

[The Assistant]

Case in point - I was in a relationship when I was in high school and my girlfriend had more sexual partners than me. She had been with three guys, all long term boyfriends, including me. She was my first. Looking back now its funny how I thought that being with three guys was a huge, disgusting number, but that was just because I was inexperienced and insecure. The relationship itself was great, she was great. If I hadnt of asked for advice from a few close friends and had them put it into perspective, I don't know what would've happened. My jealousy/insecurity might have ruined one of my best relationships.

But see, that is the whole point my friend.

You were in high school, and inexperienced - you had no business being in a relationship, and because you had to ask your friends for advice, that was proof that you weren't experienced enough and ready to handle an actual relationship.

A man needs to be strong and confident in what he is doing before he ever, EVER commits to any one girl.

Your case was a dime a dozen - there is no boy in high school who should EVER commit to any girl, it's just insane ignorance

 

[Brighty]

But see, that is the whole point my friend.

You were in high school, and inexperienced - you had no business being in a relationship, and because you had to ask your friends for advice, that was proof that you weren't experienced enough and ready to handle an actual relationship.

A man needs to be strong and confident in what he is doing before he ever, EVER commits to any one girl.

I get what you're saying, however, how would a man get the experience needed to find and handle an actual relationship if he hadn't been through a
few imperfect ones? Managing and being comfortable in a relationship is a lot different than laying random girls and having the occasional fling.

Your case was a dime a dozen - there is no boy in high school who should EVER commit to any girl, it's just insane ignorance

Preaching to the choir here!

 

[The Assistant]

how would a man get the experience needed to find and handle an actual relationship if he hadn't been through a
few imperfect ones?

Date many different girls, and never take them seriously until you know how to handle girls to near-perfection.

After dating so many different girls, you will feel confident enough to be the MAN and the POWER in the relationship, and you will have the confidence to make sure that no b1tch ever gets out of line

(I am speaking purely from experience).

By the way, when I say "date" many different girls, what I mean by that is, tell them what they wanna hear, but never truly commit to them IN YOUR EYES..........yes, you have to be a baaaad immoral "player", but the experience you get out of it will serve you GREATLY when you are finally ready to be in a relationship with a woman of your choosing.

 

[Brighty]

Date many different girls, and never take them seriously until you know how to handle girls to near-perfection.

After dating so many different girls, you will feel confident enough to be the MAN and the POWER in the relationship, and you will have the confidence to make sure that no b1tch ever gets out of line

(I am speaking purely from experience).

By the way, when I say "date" many different girls, what I mean by that is, tell them what they wanna hear, but never truly commit to them IN YOUR EYES..........yes, you have to be a baaaad immoral "player", but the experience you get out of it will serve you GREATLY when you are finally ready to be in a relationship with a woman of your choosing.

Ahh, I get exactly what you mean now. I tried to do that a few times, always ended up succumbing and getting feelings for them. Hell, I even started getting feelings for this girl I was fvcking behind her boyfriends back for four months. She wanted to get in a relationship with me, logic dictated it was an awful idea, but I couldn't help but start to have feelings for her. I broke it off before they could really develop, thankfully, but how do you do it? How can you "go through the motions" with a girl, tell them what they want to hear while knowing that you're lying to their face, and prevent yourself from returning those feelings. By nature I'm one of those romantic guys, so its probably impossible for me, I'm just more curious on how you managed to do it or rather, didn't do.

 

[blueline]

We can lie like that because we realize the true nature of things: it is all a game. they might find it serious, but it isn't given how transient their actual emotions are. women don't fall in love like men.

 

[zekko]

You don't even have any thoughts about asking anyone for any kind of ADVICE on your relationship

When I saw the subject line, the only thing that popped into my head was
a lack of drama.
But that's actually pretty close to what you wrote. If you're not having any drama, you won't be needing to seek any advice.

 

[schttrj]

This applies to any guy who is in a relationship with a girl, whether it be married, just an LTR, or an engagement.

The only real sign you need to see that you're in a good, if not great relationship, is the following:

You don't even have any thoughts about asking anyone for any kind of ADVICE on your relationship

If the bold above is not true for you, then you are not ready for a relationship, and should only be using women for sex at this time - otherwise you will be sucked into disaster, and that is my 100% personal guarantee.

TRUST, SATISFACTION and SELF-VALUATION are what determines the above!

 

[The Assistant]

Ahh, I get exactly what you mean now. I tried to do that a few times, always ended up succumbing and getting feelings for them. Hell, I even started getting feelings for this girl I was fvcking behind her boyfriends back for four months. She wanted to get in a relationship with me, logic dictated it was an awful idea, but I couldn't help but start to have feelings for her. I broke it off before they could really develop, thankfully, but how do you do it? How can you "go through the motions" with a girl, tell them what they want to hear while knowing that you're lying to their face, and prevent yourself from returning those feelings. By nature I'm one of those romantic guys, so its probably impossible for me, I'm just more curious on how you managed to do it or rather, didn't do.

You can still have feelings, and return feelings, and actually FEEL something for the girl........but you always have to keep in mind that the relationship will end 100% guaranteed. At the end, you will end up a little bit hurt, but not as hurt as you would have been if you were a CHUMP who fully bought into the commitment and thought that THIS GIRL IS THE ONE.

 

[The Assistant]

When I saw the subject line, the only thing that popped into my head was
a lack of drama.
But that's actually pretty close to what you wrote. If you're not having any drama, you won't be needing to seek any advice.

Well, there can be good drama, and bad drama, right?

Good drama = you have amazing sex, you go on beautiful vacations, you have fun going to movies and shyt, ect ect......these things result in emotions stirred up, but these are "good drama" emotions, as you are experiencing them and feeling very positive about your woman.

Bad drama - jealousy, making a big deal out of the small stuff, nagging, controllingness, "PMS'ing", ect ect......if you are in a relationship, YOU as the man have NO RIGHT to put up with anything negative like that.......if you put up with it, then you are not a man, you are just a socially conditioned little puss1fied piece of sh1t (just trying to put it nicely)