The one thing that trumps all

[K2000kidd]

I was shooting the sht with a female coworker at lunch today and I had too know why women "love" the guy that treats em so bad, she revealed to me something MOST women would never admit too. The one guy (in her case a dude named Dave) they are so, so hung up on who is an lazy, insensitive, overbearing jealous a-hole has ONE thing going for him... HE is GREAT IN BED.

That's right if you fk her like no guy ever has before she will hold on to you for dear life. You can smack her around in public, lie, get too drunk, fk her friends and spend her rent money on weed. If you make it happen for her in the bedroom you are good to go.

 

[Bible_Belt]

That sounds like my relationships. But then the b!tch always gets fat, which I ignore until we ultimately have a giant fight and I inevitably call her fat. It is at that precise instant that her attraction to me ends, and the end of the relationship soon follows. I have done this over and over again.

 

[Scars]

I think there's more to it than that. Woman will always have a better sexual experience with a guy they are in "love" with or have grown an intense emotional reaction to. He might just be average in bed but her emotional attachment to him makes him a "SEX GOD". Woman are infatuated with badboys, so of course they think their sex is better, which I'd be willing to bet is not always the case. Sex isn't as high of a priority on a woman's list than it is a man's. It's a tool to them, and they use it for things like manipulation, security, and validation.

-Scars

 

[Boilermaker]

^^

This is a very subtle point.

What they "feel" and what they want to believe are intimately correlated. I think this was called the "halo" effect, there's no apparent relation between being a badboy and being a sex god. One might argue that badboys get more sex so they must be better but this is not necessarily true.

What's more likely is because they are badboys and big alpha males; their sex is perceived to be better than the average. I am sure they orgasm to badboys "average" sex, more frequently, too!

great point scars.

 

[Burroughs]

remember the 7 to 1 ratio...men have 7 times the testosterone as women...the sex hormone.

men live to fvck
women live to manipulate

men use logic
women use emotion

 

[Stagger Lee]

Good point scars. I know I have fvked a few girls good. I even impressed myself and I know the girls got off. But you know what, vs the ones that I know I didn't do very good at all it made no discernable difference in them wanting to keep seeing me. I had the same emotional connection or lack of in both cases. I never did by into the claim that if you sex them good they'll be hooked on you based on experience.

It's like you said and is often the case with females, it's how they subjectively or emotionally experience something that matters. As long as you don't have borderline erectile dysfuntion or really low libido and are at least average performance then the other factors that attract her is what makes you the sex god in her mind. And even if you happen to have the proverbial pornstar equipment and ability (or you are good at foreplay, kissing etc which is probably just as important) that and sex in general won't keep a female around.

 

[squirrels]

The thing is...many women judge sex not just on how big your d!ck is, how long you last, or what kind of rhythm you have, but also on how sex makes them FEEL. Some women will NOT have an orgasm during a casual f*ck no matter HOW "good" he is, but will have mediocre sex with a guy who gets them worked up emotionally and will cvm for 5 minutes straight.

Sex for a woman isn't just about the naughty bits. It starts when the date starts. The eye-contact is part of the sex, the way you touch her, the way you kiss her...that's all "sex" for a woman.

This girl I'm seeing now, she's WAY more into me than I am into her. I even ask her, "why are you so head-over-heels? What is it about me??" She says, "the way you look at me, the way you touch me, the way you kiss me..."

She claims that there's no way I could touch her like that if there wasn't some kind of connection between us...unless I touch ALL women that way.

I cringed a little. I'm way too good at this sh!t.

You learn how to fire up a woman's chemical engine...she will be yours. People think they can make themselves OBJECTIVELY desirable to women, they think they can SELL the idea of a romance to a woman with reason. The REAL ladies-man, however, knows it's all about the chemistry.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You guys are right. If great sex was all about physical characteristics, at least in a woman's mind, then it would not be possible for great sex to disappear instantly just because I told her she was fat. It is clearly psychological.

 

[Tiguere]

You guys are right. If great sex was all about physical characteristics, at least in a woman's mind, then it would not be possible for great sex to disappear instantly just because I told her she was fat. It is clearly psychological.

How did you go from 29 to 35 years old in a matter of days.

 

[user43770]

The thing is...many women judge sex not just on how big your d!ck is, how long you last, or what kind of rhythm you have, but also on how sex makes them FEEL. Some women will NOT have an orgasm during a casual f*ck no matter HOW "good" he is, but will have mediocre sex with a guy who gets them worked up emotionally and will cvm for 5 minutes straight.

Right on. The second to last girl I fvcked (one night stand) asked me to choke her mid-coitus. I don't play with that sort of sh1t and it was a bit awkward when I said no. Needless to say, she wasn't as into it after that. I kept pounding away, but it was as if she was simply enduring it. My penis isn't small by any means, and I assume that my motion would rival any of y'alls', but she needed that feeling to get off. Apparently, I needed to make her feel like she was being raped. Complicated b1tches. I fvcking hate emotions. Sh1t, all I need is constant friction and I'm good to go.


Edit - And fellas, a girl asking you to choke her the first night you meet her is a warning sign; she's been through some sh1t...

 

[st_99]

The thing is...many women judge sex not just on how big your d!ck is, how long you last, or what kind of rhythm you have, but also on how sex makes them FEEL. Some women will NOT have an orgasm during a casual f*ck no matter HOW "good" he is, but will have mediocre sex with a guy who gets them worked up emotionally and will cvm for 5 minutes straight.

Sex for a woman isn't just about the naughty bits. It starts when the date starts. The eye-contact is part of the sex, the way you touch her, the way you kiss her...that's all "sex" for a woman.

This girl I'm seeing now, she's WAY more into me than I am into her. I even ask her, "why are you so head-over-heels? What is it about me??" She says, "the way you look at me, the way you touch me, the way you kiss me..."

She claims that there's no way I could touch her like that if there wasn't some kind of connection between us...unless I touch ALL women that way.

I cringed a little. I'm way too good at this sh!t.

You learn how to fire up a woman's chemical engine...she will be yours. People think they can make themselves OBJECTIVELY desirable to women, they think they can SELL the idea of a romance to a woman with reason. The REAL ladies-man, however, knows it's all about the chemistry.

yeah, i agree. if there was some scientific method to test how "good" a guy is in bed I don't think you'd see any correlation between that and how much of a ladies man he is. Women just SAY he is great in bed when they are into him for every other reason aside from sex.

So what I'm saying is the OP is way off the mark.

 

[bmp2cpm]

I was shooting the sht with a female coworker at lunch today and I had too know why women "love" the guy that treats em so bad, she revealed to me something MOST women would never admit too. The one guy (in her case a dude named Dave) they are so, so hung up on who is an lazy, insensitive, overbearing jealous a-hole has ONE thing going for him... HE is GREAT IN BED.

That's right ...

Seriously? You bought that story?

Ignore women's words only pay attention to their actions. Why would you believe what she told you and incorporate it into your philosophy of women? Big mistake in my opinion.

She's hung up on Dave because she has unresolved childhood issues, most of which involve her father. It's at a subconscious level, so she can't admit it or even understand it. At least not without many years of therapy.

So what does she do? She rationalizes her actions by telling you how great Dave is in the bedroom department. And you ate it up hook, line, and sinker.

EVERYTHING a woman tells you has a double meaning. When you listen to a woman, you have to translate EVERY word. Don't believe their lies. It's not that their lying, it's just how they are.

 

[Warrior74]

Reminds me of the chics that tell you your cawk is so big/the best/makes them cvm when they love you and then tell you that you have a tiny cawk/can't fvck/never orgasmed when they hate you. Who cares what they say, as long as I bust a nut I'm happy.