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Master Don Juan
Here's a quick opener to use next time you're feeling playfully confident.
You don't have to use it as an opener, you can bust this out pretty much anytime during the conversion.
But as an opener, it's a great sorting technique (to tell if she's into you or not so you don't waste any time) AND it will significantly increase your chances if she IS into you.
Anyhow, here's how it goes. Once you're talking to her, and you've got her attention, here's what you say:
"If you were to become incredibly attracted to somebody that you'd just met, what would that be like?"
The first thing to notice is that you're using the "second conditional." In English, this means that you are talking in hypothetical terms. Even if you or she has no recollection of grammar class, she'll get that you're only speaking in hypotheticals, and not specifically about you and her.
That means that she won't think you're saying "are you attracted to me?" Which is extremely forward, and highly unlikely to work.
Instead, it covertly invites her to imagine if she were to meet somebody and become instantly attracted.
Which means, if she does "play along," two things will happen. One is that she's open enough to talk about these kinds of things with you. That's a good sign. A really good sign.
The other is that she'll start imagining being attracted, and what that means, while looking at you and talking to you.
So any feelings she comes up with are naturally going to "rub off" on you, so to speak.
Now, if you're using this as part of your opener, you can preface it with some kind of "new age" psychic type stuff.
Something like this:
"Hi, I don't mean to bother you, but you remind me of this girl that used to do psychic readings for people as a hobby. She was actually really, really accurate. Do you mind if I ask you a question?"
Then just bust out with the question. Notice that the question has nothing to do with the thing about the "psychic friend," which is good. It will create a lot of "confusion," which will lower her resistance to answering the question.
Even if you don't intend on picking her up, this is a great fun with female friends, because once you start talking about this kind of stuff with them, they'll see you in a different light.
Like any other verbal skill, the more you practice this, the better you'll get. Luckily, because this one isn't dependent on her response, at least in an accept or reject aspect, it's easy to practice.
You don't have to use it as an opener, you can bust this out pretty much anytime during the conversion.
But as an opener, it's a great sorting technique (to tell if she's into you or not so you don't waste any time) AND it will significantly increase your chances if she IS into you.
Anyhow, here's how it goes. Once you're talking to her, and you've got her attention, here's what you say:
"If you were to become incredibly attracted to somebody that you'd just met, what would that be like?"
The first thing to notice is that you're using the "second conditional." In English, this means that you are talking in hypothetical terms. Even if you or she has no recollection of grammar class, she'll get that you're only speaking in hypotheticals, and not specifically about you and her.
That means that she won't think you're saying "are you attracted to me?" Which is extremely forward, and highly unlikely to work.
Instead, it covertly invites her to imagine if she were to meet somebody and become instantly attracted.
Which means, if she does "play along," two things will happen. One is that she's open enough to talk about these kinds of things with you. That's a good sign. A really good sign.
The other is that she'll start imagining being attracted, and what that means, while looking at you and talking to you.
So any feelings she comes up with are naturally going to "rub off" on you, so to speak.
Now, if you're using this as part of your opener, you can preface it with some kind of "new age" psychic type stuff.
Something like this:
"Hi, I don't mean to bother you, but you remind me of this girl that used to do psychic readings for people as a hobby. She was actually really, really accurate. Do you mind if I ask you a question?"
Then just bust out with the question. Notice that the question has nothing to do with the thing about the "psychic friend," which is good. It will create a lot of "confusion," which will lower her resistance to answering the question.
Even if you don't intend on picking her up, this is a great fun with female friends, because once you start talking about this kind of stuff with them, they'll see you in a different light.
Like any other verbal skill, the more you practice this, the better you'll get. Luckily, because this one isn't dependent on her response, at least in an accept or reject aspect, it's easy to practice.
