It seems that threads about confidence have become very popular again, and having some thoughts on the subject I'd like to offer a new view.
When most of you talk about building up confidence and confidence itself, it usually boils down to believing in yourself and having the balls to get a number. Now let's assume you do these two things and do them perfectly, what do you have. Well you have someone who is strong enough not to care and no fear of going for numbers. What if this is all a woman sees, because that is all you are willing to show?
Since we are all familiar with the saying that most girls are treated like they a princesses lets run with that for a minute. A guy who just goes around with no fear, and chases down numbers and shows no other side is like a fortress. Though a fortress offers great strenght and protection, every princess dreams of living in her own palace. Now a palace offers protection yet it is also astetically pleasing and not merely military in nature. A palace is furnished with art and colorfull things, a fortress is very much a spartan place.
So now the question becomes who do you make it that your heart is the place any woman would wish to reside? Well you must have confidence in other areas other than just yourself and the ability to close numbers.
You have to show that you have the ability to be sincere and that you are not afraid to let her deeper into your life. To start to show her things that no one else gets to see, slowly at first but not painstakingly slow. You have plently of time to vett her out as a flake, but if thats all you ever do she will see that and see you are not confident enough to have a relationship. If you don't think it takes absolute balls to start a relationship with someone you are just starting to know, develop bonds that will bring you closer than most people you know and be willing to deal with all the crap in between, then you need to seriously look at how you approach dating. If you can create a shared sense of empathy by being sincere, fake or real, you will have that much extra advantage over the next guy.
Ideally you can be able to play up confidence in yourself and confidence in your ability to be sincere and gain trust as well as a connnection with women, and even people in general. Of course I'm not telling anyone to act like a doormat, you should be able to walk away the moment you feel something is very wrong. But at the same time you should not come as someone who would hold games over someones head.....but of course you still use them when needed.
If I'm wrong the why do we emphasize being a mystery, and other similiar traits. Its because such traits hint at a deeper you, that there is more than just what is on the surface. All women want to find a diamond in the rough, and polish it up real nice. The question is are you just going to be another rock, or is there something more you are confident enough to show underneath?
-Grey Fox
When most of you talk about building up confidence and confidence itself, it usually boils down to believing in yourself and having the balls to get a number. Now let's assume you do these two things and do them perfectly, what do you have. Well you have someone who is strong enough not to care and no fear of going for numbers. What if this is all a woman sees, because that is all you are willing to show?
Since we are all familiar with the saying that most girls are treated like they a princesses lets run with that for a minute. A guy who just goes around with no fear, and chases down numbers and shows no other side is like a fortress. Though a fortress offers great strenght and protection, every princess dreams of living in her own palace. Now a palace offers protection yet it is also astetically pleasing and not merely military in nature. A palace is furnished with art and colorfull things, a fortress is very much a spartan place.
So now the question becomes who do you make it that your heart is the place any woman would wish to reside? Well you must have confidence in other areas other than just yourself and the ability to close numbers.
You have to show that you have the ability to be sincere and that you are not afraid to let her deeper into your life. To start to show her things that no one else gets to see, slowly at first but not painstakingly slow. You have plently of time to vett her out as a flake, but if thats all you ever do she will see that and see you are not confident enough to have a relationship. If you don't think it takes absolute balls to start a relationship with someone you are just starting to know, develop bonds that will bring you closer than most people you know and be willing to deal with all the crap in between, then you need to seriously look at how you approach dating. If you can create a shared sense of empathy by being sincere, fake or real, you will have that much extra advantage over the next guy.
Ideally you can be able to play up confidence in yourself and confidence in your ability to be sincere and gain trust as well as a connnection with women, and even people in general. Of course I'm not telling anyone to act like a doormat, you should be able to walk away the moment you feel something is very wrong. But at the same time you should not come as someone who would hold games over someones head.....but of course you still use them when needed.
If I'm wrong the why do we emphasize being a mystery, and other similiar traits. Its because such traits hint at a deeper you, that there is more than just what is on the surface. All women want to find a diamond in the rough, and polish it up real nice. The question is are you just going to be another rock, or is there something more you are confident enough to show underneath?
-Grey Fox
