The less you please, the more they respect you

[Blacksheep]

Not talking about being disrespectful with others, but it just came into my mind that the less you try to please people (personal life, professional life)... Like not being that nice guy who does everything to please women, friends, clients... The more they respect you.

I'm also experiencing it a lot with some clients. Being the nice guy, doing good prices, and being flexible... It seems they respected less my job. Now that I hold a strong position with values and also being clear about what I do and don't do... They pay more for my job.

It's like that idea of being a high-value man, applied to any field of our lives.

I used to think that on sales I had to run after my clients like a desperate guy chasing vaginas, and try everything to close a deal. But then I thought, what if I start to apply that technique I learned about dating and instead of chasing clients, show off my value and focus on delivering high-quality services. It's not that is raining clients over me... but the more I improve and show my skills, the more I don't have to go after clients.

Also, it seems there is a difference between being a nice person with a Desperate Nice person. Maybe more like being nice (but showing off self-respect and posture) and now lowering your level only to get some validation.

Like you've said @Lookatu most things we learn here about women and dating its also appliable to other fields of life. That's pretty cool.

I'd been thinking about that for a time, but wanted to see some proof that it really works. The more confident I become with my skills, I'm getting better networking and opportunities.

And my view of pleasing changed to the idea of doing something so I won't be rejected to something like: people feel pleased to you by the value you build in yourself. Women feel attracted not by what you do to her, but what you do to yourself that increase your value as a man.

Clients will pay more and will feel more attracted by the values/skills you built in your career and people realize when you are just a desperate guy looking for something, or you are confident enough in what you do.

Maybe that could be obvious to some people here... But I just have this insight today and would like to share it.

 

[Lookatu]

Yes treat your job, clients, bosses, coworkers using the same techniques as treating women and dating. There's a lot of correlation there.

This is also one of the reasons why guys in the sales field tend to do well with women. They just do the reverse and apply their salesmanship they use at work on women in their personal lives.

Just like girls you date, people at work will be able to smell desperation, confidence, supplication, thirst, etc and can use it against you.

Glad things are turning positive for you.

 

[manfrombelow]

As someone already mentioned here on SS, what you THINK you perceive and what is TRULY PERCEIVED by your subconscious mind are totally different.

For example, when OP acts nice to somebody, then he/she might THINK they perceive the act itself as something kind and noble and respectable, but in reality, their subconscious mind tells them "Naw, this guy is weak and beta as fvck, let's DISRESPECT him".

So yeah, you treat everyone around you the same way you treat a woman, which is the same way you train a dog.

 

[MoMoses]

So yeah, you treat everyone around you the same way you treat a woman, which is the same way you train a dog.

I'd say like you train a house cat. You can't go over and grab that pus_sy when you feel like it. She'll scratch your eyes out. Let her come to you and she'll purr even more.

Women are more like cats man. And I mean this in a respectful way. I'm a cat lover ;-)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

As someone already mentioned here on SS, what you THINK you perceive and what is TRULY PERCEIVED by your subconscious mind are totally different.

For example, when OP acts nice to somebody, then he/she might THINK they perceive the act itself as something kind and noble and respectable, but in reality, their subconscious mind tells them "Naw, this guy is weak and beta as fvck, let's DISRESPECT him".

So yeah, you treat everyone around you the same way you treat a woman, which is the same way you train a dog.

Subconscious mind is a major biatch, but it has to be dealt with, it can be trained. The other part is people can be "training" you. Be aware.