"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Irrationality of Rationality

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Yes, im aware the title is from a NoFx album called the war on errorism, i just thought it was cool, so i used it.


Alright boys and girls Jesters back to lay some groundbreaking **** on you mofos.


The real, the true, the ROOT of where of where well, my power comes from, if you wanna call it a DJ's power, that works too.

I know most things are in fact, trivial and meaningless. And so with this knowledge, i am not afraid to do anything, i am not unsure of myself because i know it doesnt matter, how others think of you is meaningless, how you think about yourself is again meaningless, so it doesnt matter what bullsh1t you concoct to make yourself feel inferior, because there is no inferior, there is nothing, and yes i am aware this is a run on setence, and no i am not on drugs.

I once posted about what confidence really was saying that "confidence is not know you can do anything, its knowing that if you cant, it doesnt matter". I was wrong there, but what i was wrong about was what i called it, thats not confidence, confidence hardly defines it, there is no word to define it, theres only a limited description of what "it" is. Confidence is for AFC's, confidence is for the masses of "alpha-males" that are out there who are no less clue-less than your standard chump.

The meaning of life in my opinion is the pursuit of happiness. But true happiness can only be attained if it is gained without impeding upon others happiness who do not deserve to be impeded upon. Gain happiness from your own hard work or from not doing anything, but the only way you will be truely happy, is if you do it yourself. A good example of this is people who pick on others, i guarantee you, if a study was done on people that try and gain "control" or "dominance" over others by using outright putdowns or lame suttle attempts at control, (and i know atleast 30% of you out there do this). For example, these people use suttle tactics to make themselves feel superior, such as calling others "buddy", "son" "dog", or whatever but of course it all depends on the context, other examples would be of physical contact, a lame pat on the shoulder, putting their arm over the shoulder of another guy. I can guarantee you, if a study was done, it would show these people are in reality insecure with themselves. They are not DJs although they sometimes get girls, they are only a different class of AFCs, commonly known as "alpha-males". They are only alpha among the rest of the chumps.

If you pick on someone, or if you stand by idley while someone defenseless is being picked on, you are not living up to this theory of how life should be lived. Because if you dont defend the theory, by its definition you are not living it. Not defending what is RIGHT, is therefore WRONG.


I believe this is the ultimate culmination of the DJ theory.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Good Post Jester.

If you pick on someone, or if you stand by idley while someone defenseless is being picked on, you are not living up to this theory of how life should be lived. Because if you dont defend the theory, by its definition you are not living it. Not defending what is RIGHT, is therefore WRONG.
Very true. Its too bad more people won't live by that though.
 

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Jester, each new post from you that I read, makes me each time more sure that you understand the sickness of our current society.

It's the blind leading the blind, where the media sells the idea of "strong" "independant" women, men are acting more and more like women and women more and more like men.

Morality, ethic, respct, a decent conduct is something hard to find these days. And it is also hard to be an honored men, because you're always surrounded by a$$holes.
But that's the real challenge of a DJ. Being a decent men, not a sick corrrupted bastard, in a society where values are vanishing as fast as light flies through the universe.

But, the real men stand up. And they stand strong and proud, against all adversity. These men are those who will lead the lost crowds after this sick society breaks down.

Jester, I really feel honored to see that you understand the sh!t the our world has become, and you care enough to "wake" people up. I support you totally.

It's for MEN to be MEN, with values, honor and real pride.

BBB
 

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Jester, I really do agree with you. However, I'm not sure about your interpration of confidence.

Definition of confidence by Webster.com
1 a : a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances

Confidence is knowing you have power to be successful in certain situations.

Say the meaning of life is to become happy. In this case, confidence would be knowing that you can be happy. If you don't think you can be happy, then where is the motivation?

Confidence can <and should mostly> be applied to learning something. Knowing you CAN become good at a certain sport if you work hard enough. Knowing you CAN become socially adept. Knowing you CAN work out any problems you are experiencing.

I say that humans can't achieve everything. It would be silly to think so, some things are just plain impossible. However, I do believe human capabilities well exceed many expectations certain people may have in the abilities. Knowing you have the power to achieve things is what motivates you and brings you one step closer to satisfying your innate desires (which brings you to happiness).

Good post though :). Over the years I have seen this forum go from improving skills with girls, to improving life. I believe this happened through the experiences that people had with becoming better socially, then realizing the possibilites, and through the realization that you have a lot more power under your belt if you work on yourself than someone who just waits for things to happen. I preach proactivity, and discourage reactivity. Just a note, you have always been one of my favorites here, you layed some things down when I first got here that basically set my course for what I am today. A million and one thanks.
 

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sweet guys

there must be a way to make more people see the righteous path, but im glad im not alone in this.


guys if you have aim Im me

AIM: YogurtTastesGo0d


the second 0 is a zero.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Stand for what you believe is right. Not what they believe is right.

First you have to figure out what is right to you. Really right, what you feel is right inside, not what they said was right.

I learned something from this post! Alpha males are AFCs of another class! ;)
 
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This post has really opened my eyes up. Society is really messed up and we can't control that.

We can control ourselves though. Too many people care about what OTHERS think about them. I say....as long as you are happy with yourself and your decisions...it shouldn't matter what other people think.
 

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well, i always stand up for those being picked on, however, i also put my arm round guys, its funny for all of us. They play up too, when im chatting to girls. Its quits, i dont understand why this makes me morally wrong, we all find it amusing, its like play fighting except that it gets the girls very confused and then they try harder.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yep, AFC = insecure. tryhard ALPHA= really insecure. WHO CARES= True leader.

be the third one.
 

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Good, good... very good in fact.

Impressive Jester... very impressive.

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