"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The inspired DJ

Roly

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Simple effective tip - If you feel like crap, " picking up" women and all this Djing stuff should be the last thing on your mind.

That's right man, lay off the women for a while and start living an inspiring life. Because the truth of the matter is, like this site keeps preaching in one form or another, women only enhances a man's life but it's not it.

The only way this DJing stuff, " techniques" are going to work is if you learn to feel great, feel at peace with yourself and start doing the things you love and passionate about.

Start doing the things you love and fascinated about, do it because you love it not because your doing it for your ego. i.e - The need to impress people/women, the need to prove your selfworth, the need to be " better" than others and prove your superiority, the need to get a pat in the back by your buds to show that you are " da man", let go of all that sh** or it's not going to be fun.

The truth of the matter is we are divine and worthy in one way or another, everyone has something to teach and learn from each other. Everyone plays a divine role in this universe. We're all in this together.

You are not your job, you are not your hobby, you are not your list of bednotches and conquests. Those thing only enhances your life but you are not it, all one needs is peace and self actualization.


- An inspired DJ vs an Ego driven DJ-

An inspired Dj loves women, and doesn't take this " DJing" stuff seriously and it's really no big deal. He's passionate about his life and does the things he loves. He's at peace with or without women. He's not bitter, but actually thankful for all the women that showed up in his life for each of them has a lesson that he can learn from.

An ego driven DJ has a good chance of some insecurity issues. He sees women as his source of validation and sees all the women he bedded as some sort of " victory". The truth of the matter is, this guy is not after sex, he just wants a freakin pat in the back from his friends. Sure this guy gets laid, but with his views of the world, things can get very unfullfilling.

Suggestions:

- Stop the ego pumping in your life for a while, simplify things and start thinking about doing the things that will get you excited and passionate about, not the need to satisfy your ego.

- Start taking meditation today.

- Do not act like DA MAN, BE DA MAN, the only way to do that is have a life outside of women and start living a passionate, inspiring life, that way you are DA MAN all the time and no acting is involve.


Look, Im not a " master" DJ, Im definitely not a know it all. As a matter of fact, these words aren't mine, they're a combination of the lectures on this forum and elsewhere. I just felt like sharing them because this stuff is actually useful for describing the distinction between an egodriven DJ and an inspired DJ. You tell me which path is better?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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