The 'I need time to think' scenario...

[Will900]

Well....

Tomorrow is apparently the day that my gf has set for our showdown talks. I said something stupid last weekend and now regret it badly. As you do, you apologise and ask for her forgiveness but she wasn't having any of it and now she's gone into the 'I need to think mode'.

So tomorrow is almost upon us and I haven't done a thing all week...my mind is constantly thinking about what the outcome will be. I'm sure some of you are thinking 'what exactly did I say?' Well basically I can get very anxious and that's when the wrong things come out...I said to her 'I can't do this anymore' and she didn't like that one bit as you can probably imagine. The second I sent that message I instantly regretted it...now its turned into her saying to me 'I don't know if I want a relationship' blah blah blah. We have been together for 5 months

I feel awful for saying what I said to her and can't apologise enough. Is our future in the palm of her hands? We haven't spoke the past 3 days and I'm dreading seeing her tomorrow to know what the outcome will be...

 

[Between_The_Lines]

It is in the palm of her hands because you "dread" what her reaction will be. Weak frame. Very weak frame. You already apologized profusely. Be stoic tomorrow and tell her exactly that - "I already apologized to you, I'm sorry" - but make sure to add that if that is not enough then adieu, nice knowing ya.

 

[BrainDamage92]

You dont need a person who makes you anxious. A woman knows exactly what to do to make it so. And uses it when she likes to watch you being miserable, and provoke you which gives her an excuse. "My boyfriend is a jackass" is what she says to her friends. ****... :{ Also women are masters at succumbing to peer presure.

Now, you know your GF better than me, but the way I see it, she wants to beak it off, and wants to put the blame on you.

Typical.

And if you get anxious over nothing, you need to work on yourself rather than have a relationship.

Again, I could be terribly wrong, since I kinda lost faith in women and dont trust them, I love them, but dont trust them for a second.

People here talk about DJing, frames, whatever, I saw a "hail mary" recently, funny, it all boils down to love man.

I know for a fact that unlike what most people say, were the emotional sex, and when I love I love with all my heart till disprespect arises above acceptable levels, unlike them, they cant love the way we do, and it breaks my heart to this day. Love is a fleeing emotion much like any other for women. They simply cant sustain emotions. Knowledge is pain. Booze and blues is the cure.

Remember what I say, hoes are for a time, alcohol is for life. SO dont dwell on **** much. I know I do, and it only makes me sad.

 

[Bible_Belt]

'I can't do this anymore'

That's talking like a man.

I feel awful...can't apologise enough.

That's acting like a woman.

You're invalidating yourself by not sticking to what you said. If you had done so, instead of you groveling, she would be the one groveling to you right now. That's why she doesn't respect you, which is why the two of you are done. Learn from it, and don't fvck up this way with the next girl.