Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The handwritten letter (Snail Mail)

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In the age of IM, texting, email and cell phones, never underestimate the power of a simple, handwritten letter delivered to her mailbox.

Friday is the last day to mail your Valentine's which might be the perfect opportunity for your first such letter.

Some tips:

1) Keep it short - one or two sentences. Something like "You are precious to me." can work wonders.

2) Understand handwriting analysis - you don't want to display "hell traits".

3) Keep it formal - in cursive (that doesn't mean you swear a lot). It means handwriting (you probably are rusty), with the date in the upper right and "Dear (miss)" and "Sincerely" etc.

4) If you are in a NC situation and she's starting to call you a lot again, it might be worth cutting off all other contact over the weekend until she receives your letter for maximum effect. Hopefully it arrives on Monday.

5) This is not a Hallmark card - it goes in a regular envelope and is written on standard paper.

Please share your thoughts on this idea.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I hand write and mail letters to my girl all the time. It beats the hell out of using Facebook and texting, and she loves it. I never call her, text her, and I don't have a f*cking Facebook, so the only time we really talk is in person and through letters.

And it saves me from wasting my time looking like a fagg*t with an expensive little piece of plastic in my hand sending cutesy smiley faces and "lol's".

I'd rather spend my time working on my business/****ing my girl than prancing around facebook and text like some kind of cracked up teenager.
 

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bigneil said:
Please share your thoughts on this idea.
Sounds gay.

Valentines day.. "Men" (and I use the term loosely) still pander to this wank?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgFNqkO-jmY

Just tell her like I did, we dont do valentines day here ,everyday is valentines. And she was into mills and boon books when i first met her. If I can do it you can do it.
 

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Sounds gay.
Was this a Freudian slip?

Keep your repressed fantasies to yourself.

And you're getting way off topic - Valentine's day was simply a side note to this proven idea. But keep texting your boyfriend little guy.
 

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bigneil said:
Was this a Freudian slip?

Keep your repressed fantasies to yourself.

But keep texting your boyfriend little guy.
lol, you sure showed me.

bigneil said:
Valentine's day was simply a side note to this proven idea.
Sending mail (in whatever form) to win over the fair maidens heart is hardly a "proven idea" for anyone over 12 mate.

Where do you think you are?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I HATE writing letters by hand. Heck, even taking notes in class is a rather unpleasant task.

The fine motor impairments I have just make me abhor handwriting.
Fortunately with the advent of the printer, I see no true need for handwritten letters.

As with Vice, I also agree that those little cutesy Hallmark cards are pointless. If I wanted to send a piece of cardboard with a little half-clever phrase, I'd simply type one up myself. Why pay $5 for it?
 

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snail mail is so baller. Ive been doing it recently and been getting really good responses. people really appreciate that you take the time to do it.

if you are writing it to someone to whom you are romantically interested, make sure to include a subtle DHV to show youre not too into it. Like, I am writing this on the plane and thinking of you, or something like that.
 

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Hmmm, I like the idea of handwritten letters, never tried that myself....

But I have one concern, I'm Single, and I'm happy with it, I'm not really into relationships, so I have many of those loose friendships with girls I have Sex with every now and then. So by sending them a handwritten letter, wouldn't that be simply "too much" for a simply sex-relationship? I mean, these girls enjoy their freedom too, none of them expects or wants a relationship with me, so as much as I like the idea, I think that could cause some problems for me :cool:
 
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