What i'm going to share with you to today is what i believe to be the largest misconception revolving around self improvement (and therefore, seduction). It's the problem of 'perfection'. Everyone's trying to be perfect.
What's wrong with being perfect?
It's impossible.
Your trying to do something that CAN NOT be done. This way your setting yourself up to fail before you even begin. Think about it. How many times have you woken up and thought "tomorrow is my day that i start living". Yet you don't. You might do a couple of things that you don't normally do but at the end of the day you see that approach doesn't work and you give up. Then a week later you try the same thing, the cycle continues, and ultimately you achieve absolutely nothing.
People ussually have an image in their mind, wether they know it or not, of what the perfect day is. It probably revolves eating perfectly to your diet, going to the gym and putting in your maximum effort, approaching 3 girls in the one day, getting all your homework done, etc etc etc. Seriously, who's going to get all that done when the day before all they did was jack off and watch TV. The worst part of all is it involves self-discipline, theres noone there yelling at you to do it. You have never forced yourself to do these things before - why would you start now?
In order to find the solution we have to look at the 2 factors which make up a succesfull day. Firstly, there's the actual physical tasks that would fulfill you, like doing your homework, talking to that girl you want to bang, etc. Secondly, there's the amount of effort you put in.
At this stage, everyone has been focused on the first factor. They have looked at the tasks which needed to be done to attain success and they write it all down (or keep it in their head, people even do this without noticing) and they think the effort will just come.
So here's the new approach, rather then focusing on WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE start focusing on the EFFORT YOU ARE PUTTING IN. Focus on the effort and you will naturally do the tasks that fulfill you. It's allready in your head what you have to do, the only thing you need to do conciously is put in the effort!
So the solution? Consistency.
Do your best.
Wake up in the morning and try and get up at 6:30, can't do it? dont give up! (You would have allready given up at this stage if you where focusing on the tasks and 'perfection'). Get up when you can and eat a good meal. Get down to school on time and try your best to talk a little more than your used to, just keep trying! Never stop trying! The second you stop trying is the second you accept your mediocrity.
For example, if you keep trying to go to the gym, you will eventually get a good thing going! Originally you wouldnt be able to do it, you would get there once or twice a week, but you would keep trying and in a month or two you are going 4 times a week, eating perfectly, and staying fit. You look great! Just by putting in effort.
Another example, you keep trying to improve your seduction attempts. You get a formulated pick up plan and then you **** up and dont even approach. Then you give up and claim 'i cant approach!!!'. If you keep trying, every single day to approah a girl, in a week or two you will make your first approach, and then... the rest is history.
This whole thing about perfection is peoples attempt to organise life, to try and make something incontrollable controlled, you cant do this! Change is coming and all you can do is keep on keeping on, life cant be organised.
I leave you with an extremely inspirational quote.
"Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a lion or a gazelle-when the sun comes up, you’d better be running."– Source Unknown
Take care ladies
What's wrong with being perfect?
It's impossible.
Your trying to do something that CAN NOT be done. This way your setting yourself up to fail before you even begin. Think about it. How many times have you woken up and thought "tomorrow is my day that i start living". Yet you don't. You might do a couple of things that you don't normally do but at the end of the day you see that approach doesn't work and you give up. Then a week later you try the same thing, the cycle continues, and ultimately you achieve absolutely nothing.
People ussually have an image in their mind, wether they know it or not, of what the perfect day is. It probably revolves eating perfectly to your diet, going to the gym and putting in your maximum effort, approaching 3 girls in the one day, getting all your homework done, etc etc etc. Seriously, who's going to get all that done when the day before all they did was jack off and watch TV. The worst part of all is it involves self-discipline, theres noone there yelling at you to do it. You have never forced yourself to do these things before - why would you start now?
In order to find the solution we have to look at the 2 factors which make up a succesfull day. Firstly, there's the actual physical tasks that would fulfill you, like doing your homework, talking to that girl you want to bang, etc. Secondly, there's the amount of effort you put in.
At this stage, everyone has been focused on the first factor. They have looked at the tasks which needed to be done to attain success and they write it all down (or keep it in their head, people even do this without noticing) and they think the effort will just come.
So here's the new approach, rather then focusing on WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE start focusing on the EFFORT YOU ARE PUTTING IN. Focus on the effort and you will naturally do the tasks that fulfill you. It's allready in your head what you have to do, the only thing you need to do conciously is put in the effort!
So the solution? Consistency.
Do your best.
Wake up in the morning and try and get up at 6:30, can't do it? dont give up! (You would have allready given up at this stage if you where focusing on the tasks and 'perfection'). Get up when you can and eat a good meal. Get down to school on time and try your best to talk a little more than your used to, just keep trying! Never stop trying! The second you stop trying is the second you accept your mediocrity.
For example, if you keep trying to go to the gym, you will eventually get a good thing going! Originally you wouldnt be able to do it, you would get there once or twice a week, but you would keep trying and in a month or two you are going 4 times a week, eating perfectly, and staying fit. You look great! Just by putting in effort.
Another example, you keep trying to improve your seduction attempts. You get a formulated pick up plan and then you **** up and dont even approach. Then you give up and claim 'i cant approach!!!'. If you keep trying, every single day to approah a girl, in a week or two you will make your first approach, and then... the rest is history.
This whole thing about perfection is peoples attempt to organise life, to try and make something incontrollable controlled, you cant do this! Change is coming and all you can do is keep on keeping on, life cant be organised.
I leave you with an extremely inspirational quote.
"Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a lion or a gazelle-when the sun comes up, you’d better be running."– Source Unknown
Take care ladies