"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The girl from the bus home...

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Wow, it was race day on saturday...i got dressed up sharp and lookin savvy...i got commented and asked whether i am going to pick up...so i take it as a good day.

So i went out wit friends to the race day AS WELL AS goin clubbin afterwards (10am - 4am marathon) with no luck with the ladies because I was always on the move and didn't capitalise on thigns.

BUT...

On the bus on my way home I managed to strike up a convo with this young girl...she had sum writing on her chest from friends and I thought I could bust her on it...so fair enuff she was pretty cool and we talked a lot and flirted and laid some gold kino on her... I managed to have a quick make out before she had to get off her stop (one stop before mine so shes closeby)

I happen to find this girl cool and would love to make something of it...BUT i made the mistake of not asking for her number and only remember her name from her student id therefore an instant email address...i wanna contact her through this but i dont know if it is a safe way but this is the only way id get hold of her.

here is a copy of an email i was thinkin of sending her

chelly,

hey chelly...did your niece teach you anymore dance moves or do you now know how to write properly on your chest to get attention from people haha...anyways i didnt get your mobile number but remembered how to spell ya name so i thought id email you...

but hey i had a good time on the bus home(although a very,very short one) so why dont we catch up over coffee sometime... you seem like u'd make a nice friend. let me know when you're free

****


yea i kno its short and not quality but its just an example....but yea let us know whats good...thanks DJs
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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not bad, but not coffee!

Go to a place where she can show you her dance moves on that video game that you dance on. than Write on her chest!
 

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her niece is only 3 so the dancin bit was kinda funny but she shook her ass so nice....and i traced the writing on her chest and touched her boobie and she knew it and smiled lol....


by the way I need some kind of an idea on how to contact her
 

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Send that email and go for coffee don't listen to that bullsh*t about action dates. If you are intresting and can keep up good convo coffee is perfect.

Ninja out
 

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Coffee isn't as good as martinis.
I suggest goin to a martini place.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ragin_Asian

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Heres what I want: Just to see her briefly at uni as a casual get together...lol just this time a bit more longer than our bus encounter. Then from there I get to know more about her and see if shes the real deal.

I need ideas on how to email her since i only have her email only because I remembered her name cos i saw her student ID although she didnt give me her full name. so asking too much might be a lil clingy or freaky right off the bat..she doesnt expect anything more than our bus encounter let alone know that i know how to contact her (borderline stalkin lol). so I wanna be able to write something short and sweet. So yea no action dates or anything heavy or else she will just run.
 

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Your email is perfect. My personal advice to you would be to see her again on the bus and talk to her then. Get her number and then call her.

Ninja out
 

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Wow, i never see public transportation stories here. I guess I'm not the only one trying this!
Dude - I do 95% of my pick-ups on public transportation.

It's awesome. :)

~Sloopy
 

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Yup I've just emailed her so i'll just do my own thing and keep on sarging around places while i'll let this cook.

I should make up a list of places and ideas for uni jocks like me to sarge and pick up...you never know what HB is gonna be goin home hoping some fine young lad will chat her up.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My friend goes to uni he says there are 100s of hotties walking around the uni between classes and lunch times ect. Why not sarge them?

Ninja out
 

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yea i live on campus......brother, its a goldmine...Im about to go to the gym the have a quick walkaround campus plus theres clubnite in uni as well so today will be a good day.

letly ive been going to the library and i find no shortage of bored young hotties who are sick of their work so yeah its a good motivation to go to the library for once lol
 

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I agree with Black Italian on this one. Send the e-mail and go for coffee. You seem to have good conversation skills, and are probably pretty charming.

Personally I think the main reason that early action dates are touted so highly here is because alot of shy guys don't know how to make charming conversation with a person they don't know so well. Now don't get me wrong, you HAVE to do alot of action dates. But I've never done an action date for a first date, and my first dates kick ass.
 

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They can take bloody ages.. They'll often enough notice something like it, and give themselves a mental note to get back to it, then just leave it for ages before finally replying.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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still no reply...but i think now that bus pick ups are a good opportunity. can anyone help out of a good strategy? ill prolly write one up after this weekend and everyone can add more ideas as we go
 

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I had 0% success rate with public transportation girls even if they do give me their number. Which seems like your case. And I don't approach that many since I don't find every one attractive.
 

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Well I do have a car so that means i dont have to take public transport unless i've been drinking and heading off to the clubs...and i also live on campus at uni so theres no shortage of honeys on the bus or even waiting at the bus stop which is a bonus.

it really depends where you live and where you are planning to go.

yea that girl probably just wanted some random play but its all fun. no real loss there i could find other girls just as fun as her.
 
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