You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The image is computer modified and color corrected because it was taken with radio telescopes, which are designed to pick up on wavelengths outside of the visual spectrum of light (ultraviolet, infrared, xrays, gamma rays, etc). That’s why it looks like a CGI image.
The black hole itself isn’t really in the picture. What you are actually seeing is a nearby star being stripped of its gasses. All you see here is the heated gas being detected.
The black spot in the center is just the absence of these wavelengths of heated gas, as they cannot escape the event horizon of the black hole itself and therefor are not being picked up by the radio telescopes as a result.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.