In the words of a really hot female friend of mine "I hate needy guys". She is frustrated that all the guys she meets either want a one night stand, or want a relationship right away or start acting all clingy and needy.
And that is the secret. Girls can sense neediness in a guy and it repulses them.
It is relatively easy to learn enough game to attract girls. But the hardest thing to do is to get rid of that AFC neediness that has a tendency to linger on.
What I have found helps is:
1) Work as hard as you can to get to the stage where you are confident that you can get girls. That way you know if things don't work out with girl A, you can just go out and get some other girl.
2) Get used to being alone. One cause of neediness is fear of being alone. When a girl becomes integral to your happiness it is hardly surprising you cling to her because you fear losing her will also mean losing your happiness. But it is never good to be reliant on others, you have to be happy period with or without a girl. If that requires a complete break from women so be it.
Get a life first, then you'll be able to date girls with a much more relaxed approach.
3) Cut out all the silly daydreaming, thinking about her.....usually a sign of too much time on your hands! Keep busy and you will not have the time to get infatuated. Control of your thoughts is the key to success in all areas of life.
4) Fake it till you make it. While it is best if you eliminate all neediness by using the tips above, this will take time, and in the meantime eliminate all the actions and needy things you say. Examples include going all mushy and saying how you feel, calling her too often, being too nice to her, going out of your way to see her, and doing romantic things much too soon
5) You are at most danger of acting needy when you have fallen for a girl. It is relatively easy not to act needy when your emotions are not really involved. But it is much harder when you really like a girl. An AFC tendency is to fall for girls far too quickly and girls hate it. You never want to fall for a girl unless she has fallen for you first and even then be careful because girls are very fickle and fall in and out of love very very quickly. You have to be able to keep your emotions under control and if you feel yourself falling for her, take a step back, snap out of it and remember you are just experiencing infatuation and the feelings aren't real.
And that is the secret. Girls can sense neediness in a guy and it repulses them.
It is relatively easy to learn enough game to attract girls. But the hardest thing to do is to get rid of that AFC neediness that has a tendency to linger on.
What I have found helps is:
1) Work as hard as you can to get to the stage where you are confident that you can get girls. That way you know if things don't work out with girl A, you can just go out and get some other girl.
2) Get used to being alone. One cause of neediness is fear of being alone. When a girl becomes integral to your happiness it is hardly surprising you cling to her because you fear losing her will also mean losing your happiness. But it is never good to be reliant on others, you have to be happy period with or without a girl. If that requires a complete break from women so be it.
Get a life first, then you'll be able to date girls with a much more relaxed approach.
3) Cut out all the silly daydreaming, thinking about her.....usually a sign of too much time on your hands! Keep busy and you will not have the time to get infatuated. Control of your thoughts is the key to success in all areas of life.
4) Fake it till you make it. While it is best if you eliminate all neediness by using the tips above, this will take time, and in the meantime eliminate all the actions and needy things you say. Examples include going all mushy and saying how you feel, calling her too often, being too nice to her, going out of your way to see her, and doing romantic things much too soon
5) You are at most danger of acting needy when you have fallen for a girl. It is relatively easy not to act needy when your emotions are not really involved. But it is much harder when you really like a girl. An AFC tendency is to fall for girls far too quickly and girls hate it. You never want to fall for a girl unless she has fallen for you first and even then be careful because girls are very fickle and fall in and out of love very very quickly. You have to be able to keep your emotions under control and if you feel yourself falling for her, take a step back, snap out of it and remember you are just experiencing infatuation and the feelings aren't real.
