"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The DJ rules...Do they actually work?

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Just a quick update on my situation with this girl, from what I've heard recently, she's either back with her old boyfriend or found a new one. I'm guessing it's the former, but the latter could be possible too. After all, girls don't really have the same problem us guys do in finding somebody, even the least attractive ones. This is one of the few times where this type of situation doesn't bother me, although it is an indication of how quickly a girl can forget about you. But it is the end of the semester, so chances are, I'll see her again in January. I may be able to use her for social proof. I believe she's currently been residing in the all girls' dorm--I'm thinking she may even have some friends she could introduce me to! We'll see. Do girls actually hang out with the people they call "guy friends", or do they just say that?

[This message has been edited by krd (edited 12-21-2001).]
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It could be one of many factors:

1. First off, who broke up with who in the last relationship? If she got dumped, then she's probably desperate and she looks at you for being easy bait. I hope you didn't take that the wrong way.

2. Maybe you are demonstrating some DJ tactis without even realizing it. Since you aren't attracted to her, you feel more relaxed, confident, and comfortable around her, which is turning her on.
 
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