"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The difference between a DJ and a PUA

onthepath

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i want some thoughts on this

i've been noticing that becoming a Don Juan is geared towards life altering practices that make you a better a person, while PUA is more about using some canned lines to get with some dumb bimbo for a one night stand (just based on what i've been reading about guys like mystery and style (neil strauss)

so what do you guys think is the better "discipline" ?

for me, my life goal isn't to sleep with countless women. i dont go to clubs and bars (they dont interest me, and the types of girls who do don't interest me) and i'll admit i'm a 21 (nearly 22) year old virgin and perhaps my mentality was formed because i was trying to rationalise the fact that i'm a virgin, but i dont want to sleep with women, and i don't want to become some guy who goes around picking up women

rather, i want to gain enough self confidence to become the type of guy who can be the centre of attention if he wanted to, but chooses to hang back with a couple of close friends (i rememebr reading this somewhere before)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lust

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I'm so sick of hearing this.

It's the SAME.

It's just a different fvcking acronym.

I know plenty of PUAs that work towards self actualization and personal growth more than the majority of people on this site.

It's just a name. There is nothing different, just that PUAs are on a different site. The names give out a subconscious statement, Pick Up Artist would make one think it's more about chicks, but really PUAs and DJs are the same.

There is no difference. Sure, the articles on this site may be slightly different than a PUA site, but in the end, everyone wants the same thing. Self and personal awareness and personal growth.
 

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A PUA supplicates toward the desires of women because women are his goal. Ultimately, he is still like an AFC in this regard, only somewhat more successful (eg: negs, feigning disinterest to make a girl like you?). A DJ, on the other hand, realizes that women are not the prize and won't go out of his way to have sex with some hor. If she meets his qualifications, he'll take her, but he won't actively deny his own preferences simply to seduce her. A DJ is a successful man, not just a boy-toy. And he is more real.
 
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