I am sure by now you have heard all the praise Net Dating has received over the few past decades. When it first evolved from chat rooms, one creepy guy chopped up a chic and 20 years later that scenario still penetrates the minds of many females. Chance encounters leave a lot of people reluctant to try Net Romance. I would like to mention a few cons to online dating. Statistics claim that at any given moment there are over 50000 predators trolling the Net for their next victim. Online Dating sites have made several billion dollars……..that’s BILLION, from repeat business. They market chance encounters at finding romance and love for just a few dollars a day. The sites dangle enticements that often prey on the ill-equipped (desperate, lonely, relationship challenged) population with hopes of finding a soul mate. Tactics like auto-renew, save now, free trial, it’s okay to look, etc all are created to extract you from your hard earned cash. Free Dating sites often lack quality members and the frills paid for sites offer.
The online competition is fierce and women get overwhelmed with anywhere from 50-200 emails, IM’s, Text’s a day, depending on their photo and which sites they are on. Imagine being bombarded with irritating IM’s every day or having 200 plus emails to read. For women, online dating appears like a full-time job, just weeding out the worthy from the deletions. Great if you are one of the first, but sucks if you are one of the last to email her. People online often miss-represent themselves to be something they are not in person. As most sites DO NOT screen their members for authenticity….so one could become anyone they want to online. There are tons of spammers, spoofs, porn redirections, and players on various sites. The Net is saturated with fakes, phonies, wannabe’s, cheaters, liars, losers, stalkers, married, solicitors, etc. This is all due to anonymity and is getting worse. A few sites have tried to run background checks for you in hopes to counteract this growing trend and cash in on your safety. The match to date ratio is about 10%. That means a 90% failure rate for online dating.
We often see commercials boasting marriages that originated from online matching but what they don’t advertise is that the majority of clients seldom find anyone meaningful or any of the horror stories of dates gone bad. Online dating can be addictive, time consuming, and may even result in transforming someone into being overly picky and ultimately un-dateable. When people have several options/matches they tend to casual date more and solidifying meaningful, lasting relationships becomes more of a challenge. The philosophy “variety is the spice of life” is magnified online. People often get hung up on pictures, financial status, and the reasons why you are still single, which leads to disappointments when escalating from virtual to a live meeting. There are “rules” to each site and violators will get banned for life. Online rejections are plenty as are no responses. People often appear on two or more sites simultaneously hoping to fill the validation mode in their pathetic lives. Internet dating re-enforces anti-social behavior, lowers tolerance levels, and decreases ones patience level. It also increases one’s capacity for casual dating as having options most often does. Long distance relationships have flourished in recent years thanks to online dating. Cheating, affairs, booty calls, STD’s all exponentially increased due to online dating. Communication has also been effected as people often resort to corresponding in the form emails, IM’s, text messages as opposed to breaking up on the phone or in person.
Spending too much time online leads to burnout status and first dates become less anticipated. It can be amusing but also detrimental as anything becomes when abused.
Virtual approaches do little to increase your confidence. Go old fashioned/low-tech and reap real live tangible results by limiting your time online
The online competition is fierce and women get overwhelmed with anywhere from 50-200 emails, IM’s, Text’s a day, depending on their photo and which sites they are on. Imagine being bombarded with irritating IM’s every day or having 200 plus emails to read. For women, online dating appears like a full-time job, just weeding out the worthy from the deletions. Great if you are one of the first, but sucks if you are one of the last to email her. People online often miss-represent themselves to be something they are not in person. As most sites DO NOT screen their members for authenticity….so one could become anyone they want to online. There are tons of spammers, spoofs, porn redirections, and players on various sites. The Net is saturated with fakes, phonies, wannabe’s, cheaters, liars, losers, stalkers, married, solicitors, etc. This is all due to anonymity and is getting worse. A few sites have tried to run background checks for you in hopes to counteract this growing trend and cash in on your safety. The match to date ratio is about 10%. That means a 90% failure rate for online dating.
We often see commercials boasting marriages that originated from online matching but what they don’t advertise is that the majority of clients seldom find anyone meaningful or any of the horror stories of dates gone bad. Online dating can be addictive, time consuming, and may even result in transforming someone into being overly picky and ultimately un-dateable. When people have several options/matches they tend to casual date more and solidifying meaningful, lasting relationships becomes more of a challenge. The philosophy “variety is the spice of life” is magnified online. People often get hung up on pictures, financial status, and the reasons why you are still single, which leads to disappointments when escalating from virtual to a live meeting. There are “rules” to each site and violators will get banned for life. Online rejections are plenty as are no responses. People often appear on two or more sites simultaneously hoping to fill the validation mode in their pathetic lives. Internet dating re-enforces anti-social behavior, lowers tolerance levels, and decreases ones patience level. It also increases one’s capacity for casual dating as having options most often does. Long distance relationships have flourished in recent years thanks to online dating. Cheating, affairs, booty calls, STD’s all exponentially increased due to online dating. Communication has also been effected as people often resort to corresponding in the form emails, IM’s, text messages as opposed to breaking up on the phone or in person.
Spending too much time online leads to burnout status and first dates become less anticipated. It can be amusing but also detrimental as anything becomes when abused.
Virtual approaches do little to increase your confidence. Go old fashioned/low-tech and reap real live tangible results by limiting your time online