I realized something today.
Over the past few months, I have fallen out of balance.
I have been a SoSuave lurker for quite some time now, and I have learnt many things. However, the confidence building posts were always my primary focus, as confidence is a necessity in every segment of your life.
I recall that these confidence posts would all point out a few chief concepts; advising the reader to make themselves happy and get their life on track. Such advice may seem straightforward, but is easily twisted to do the opposite of what you want.
Now, back to my epiphany.
Today, I realized that I have not followed the advice given in the slightest.
The confidence posts advised me to make myself happy and get my life on track. In response, I read more and more of SoSuave and occasionally made an insignificant attempt at trying some of the advice (e.g. I would go to a mall with the intention of cold-approaching, walk anxiously around for an hour and then go home). I kidded myself that learning how to pursue women would make me happy, and was surely the part of my life that was off track right now. I’m amazed how much logical sense that made to me just hours ago, and how foolish it looks to write it now.
Pook clearly advocates the opposite of what I was doing in his “Be a Man” post, when he writes about building your tower and focusing on your dreams. Focus like that will lead to self-confidence, for it is a focus on improving yourself.
Thanks to my misunderstanding of some important advice, my life is now further off track than it was before. To emphasize, I recently mentioned to one of my close friends that it seems like my world is crumbling, and yet I feel as though everything is going according to plan. I should have seen those delusions as an indicator that my focus was on all the wrong things.
Nevertheless, this experience hasn’t disheartened me.
Now that I know what I was doing wrong, I will work to fix it. I will focus on getting my life on track and making myself happy. In short, I will do what I was doing back before I found SoSuave.
I am not saying SoSuave is bad, in fact quite the opposite. I am a better man for this experience, because I now understand the importance of my long-term plan, and will put other goals (such as getting girls) in the position they deserve. These goals are still important to me, but shall no longer take precedence over that which is truly important.
Therein, lies the danger of misinterpreted advice.
Therein, lies the danger – and power – of SoSauve.
Over the past few months, I have fallen out of balance.
I have been a SoSuave lurker for quite some time now, and I have learnt many things. However, the confidence building posts were always my primary focus, as confidence is a necessity in every segment of your life.
I recall that these confidence posts would all point out a few chief concepts; advising the reader to make themselves happy and get their life on track. Such advice may seem straightforward, but is easily twisted to do the opposite of what you want.
Now, back to my epiphany.
Today, I realized that I have not followed the advice given in the slightest.
The confidence posts advised me to make myself happy and get my life on track. In response, I read more and more of SoSuave and occasionally made an insignificant attempt at trying some of the advice (e.g. I would go to a mall with the intention of cold-approaching, walk anxiously around for an hour and then go home). I kidded myself that learning how to pursue women would make me happy, and was surely the part of my life that was off track right now. I’m amazed how much logical sense that made to me just hours ago, and how foolish it looks to write it now.
Pook clearly advocates the opposite of what I was doing in his “Be a Man” post, when he writes about building your tower and focusing on your dreams. Focus like that will lead to self-confidence, for it is a focus on improving yourself.
Thanks to my misunderstanding of some important advice, my life is now further off track than it was before. To emphasize, I recently mentioned to one of my close friends that it seems like my world is crumbling, and yet I feel as though everything is going according to plan. I should have seen those delusions as an indicator that my focus was on all the wrong things.
Nevertheless, this experience hasn’t disheartened me.
Now that I know what I was doing wrong, I will work to fix it. I will focus on getting my life on track and making myself happy. In short, I will do what I was doing back before I found SoSuave.
I am not saying SoSuave is bad, in fact quite the opposite. I am a better man for this experience, because I now understand the importance of my long-term plan, and will put other goals (such as getting girls) in the position they deserve. These goals are still important to me, but shall no longer take precedence over that which is truly important.
Therein, lies the danger of misinterpreted advice.
Therein, lies the danger – and power – of SoSauve.
which was not my intention at all. In fact, I am pleased that I have come to this realization, as I believe it means I have learnt something and am making progress.