"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Best Advice I Can Give You

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Never reward women for their looks. I mean it. You can be attracted to her all you want, but never mention it.

Women have grown up with a sense of entitlement these days. They've learned that they can use their looks to get better treatment in society. What we as men need to do is stop playing into it. Don't act any different around a woman you're attracted to than one you're not. Don't type a cute waitress anymore than an ugly one. It's all about the service.

Women always bytch about being objectified by men for their beauty. Fine....don't mention their beauty at all. Talk about how smart they are and how interesting they are to talk to. You know deep down she'll be asking herself why he's not fawing all over my beauty like other guys. Believe me, women don't spend thousands of dollars on make up, clothes and hair because they don't care about their looks. Our job is to not reward them for it. When that happens, maybe these souless facades of what used to be women will turn into decent human beings again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blinkwatt101

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Dude check this....1st day of college,class is impacted. 55 people show up for a 30 person class. This one chick wears the skimpiest clothes I've ever seen. Her body was amazing and she knew how to work the boobs. The professor instantly let her in,no wait list,nothing. Her personally catered to her to get her in.

Now she wears sweats and big loose shirts. :crazy:

Point being....don't cater to chicks.
 

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factfindingmission said:
Never reward women for their looks. I mean it. You can be attracted to her all you want, but never mention it.
I think you might be on to something here. A woman's status value comes mostly from her looks. You can give positive feedback about what they're wearing or the way they're wearing their hair or whatever, but none of this "you're so beautiful" stuff.

If you tell a woman she's gorgeous it ups her self perceived value too much and she thinks that means she can get any man she wants. Communicating your attraction with touch instead of words will make her think more positively about YOU whereas compliments on her looks only make her think more positively about HERSELF.
 

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Sounds exactly like this girl kimber i worked with
she was easily an HB8 with no effort and we were all over her
hell we used to argue over who'd buy her lunch and once
we shut down the entire department to throw her a birtday party
she ate it all up
 

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Here's how to counteract this in some situations:

Pretend she has something on her face and wipe it away. She will become very self-conscious. Tell her she should wash her face once in a while. It tends to burst her bubble a little.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dj_china

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hm I don't think its that simple though...
girls who are hot tend to know it, whether you say it to them or not
of course I'm not going to fawn on them, but what I usually do is hide all my compliments on their looks within a joke, or at least say it in a teasing manner.

I'm not sure if this actually hurts my game though, by qualifying the girl too much?

so lines such as
"of course she's not as pretty as you, why else would i be seeing you??"
"why are you so upset that I can't see you tonight -- you must have guys lined up to see you already!" (making her qualify herself to me that she is not seeing other guys? or if she is, to consciously think that she IS picking me over them)
 
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