The Art of the Cold Approach (For Those That Keep Asking Me How to Do It)

[Harry Wilmington]

Hey guys!

So, as you all may know, I have a podcast I do on a regular basis (every Monday, Wednesday and Friday). Rarely do I come on here to encourage people to listen to any particular show (since the link to it is in my signature); however, I felt the need to do so in this case since people have been asking me about how I go about doing cold approaches in public to women.

As I've stated many times before, my expertise in the game is really more about doing online dating. Although I've definitely gotten more comfortable with being able to talk to girls in public (and am also a master at meeting girls at parties and hooking up with them either that same night or within a few dates), the majority of my successes have come from finding girls online. With that said, though, I recently interviewed someone who I've known for years now, and he's a stone-cold MACK when it comes to walking up to girls, talking to them, making them feel instantly comfortable, and getting them to either give him their numbers or take them home that same night.

So, for the benefit of all of those who have asked me, "How can I successfully do a cold approach?", THIS is a podcast you must listen to. It's 35 minutes of pure gold, where he talks about:

- Preparation: how you need to look BEFORE you even leave your house
- What signals to look for from her that indicate she's open to a conversation
- How this guy got his current girlfriend (3 years together and counting) to give him her number within 15 seconds of first talking to her
- Mistakes many guys make in their approach
- What to say to every woman to make them feel comfortable
- How confidence plays a HUGE role in her being open to talk to you
- And much, much more!

Take a listen, and I hope it helps you guys out: The Art of the Cold Approach

 

[Gman90]

I had the audio running while doing a few other things, and I ended up enjoying it. He talks about things that are reiterated over and over but people still fail to do. Confidence is Key, and don't be afraid to approach.

 

[Mr Wright]

The thing about cold approach is that most guys do not appreciate how hard it is. I've done a lot of cold approach, I've slept with girls from cold approach, I'd say I'm halfway decent. It's tough but the rewards are so much better. I used to hate seeing all those sexy girls on the street or whatever and not being able to get into conversations and more with them. Now I've got to the point where I can meet a girl on the street who I think is really hot and actually have a fighting chance. I know for me, that's all I ever really wanted out of all this is to have a fighting chance at getting the lifestyle that I am currently building towards.

That's where I think most social circle game and online game is lacking. Plus you meet a better quality of girl in the day, I've dated far more intelligent good looking girls from cold approach in the day compared to anything else. I hope guys really put in the time and effort to learn how to cold approach well because it's fun and the girls love it. As long as you can get over the initial period of rejection, you will love it. Harry give it a shot, you might learn something new.

 

[Thatdude8708]

Good stuff

 

[Harry Wilmington]

@Gman90 - Glad u enjoyed the podcast!

@Mr Wright - Like I said in the podcast, I'm much better at cold approaching these days. The hardest part for me was figuring out a reason to talk to them in the first place. Once I came up with "transitional conversations" it became a lot easier for me to do so, to the point where I hooked up with a LOT of girls I met at parties simply by acting like I was already in a conversation with them when I first started talking to them. With that said, I still prefer online game - I've always been somewhat uneasy walking up to strangers and trying to essentially sell myself to them on why they need to talk to me. At least that's what it feels like - even though I know the girls will be receptive to me, approaching them online comes much easier to me. But much respect to those who were either naturals at it or have never had a problem being able to just talk to people they don't know in person and make the magic happen!

 

[thunder_god]

Great podcast Harry. Just what I needed since I'm in the beginning stages of starting to do cold approaches.

 

[skinnyguy]

The guy you were talking to was totally right when he said that women pick up on how he talks to other women. He treats an HB 2 with the same respect he gives an HB 9. Not pedestalizing is key!

Also I like how you brought up that you act like you're already having a conversation with them. Reduces some of the pressure in talking to the girl and makes it look like you're having fun.