The Art of Texting

[GrimPhallic]

Okay this is going to be one of the best threads ever... Like many I have no issue getting a girls number. Especially with how text messaging has grown, I have found that if you mention texting her instead of calling her, they are more likely to give the number to you. Texting is more convenient to women and less awkward for us guys, so it is a win win. This is true I swear, instead of saying "Give me your number and I will call you sometime", just replace call with text. It does work. Anyway, my friend is the ultimate chick magnet somehow... He gets chicks to text with him, and then gets them to send him nude pics and sh*t over text... it is amazing. He is the one that told me about asking for their number to text, not talk. Well I can get that far, but I can not figure out the samantics of it. When to text her, when to reply, what to say, how to joke and make her laugh (important), how to get her to talk dirty (important)... So lets get some pros in here for trials/advice.

 

[GrimPhallic]

I have more I just wanted to get the intro to the thread separately. Anyway I have got two chicks numbers and we have texted for three straight days. They both told me that they think I am hot. I replied back the same... one of them jokes around with me about "taking a guy down". I started it bc she has a self defense class and was texting me out of nowhere one day (we didnt talk for a few days before this). I asked her what she was doin and she told me she was in self defense class, and her parents were making her take it.

I said: I bet you are a master at taking guys down
she said: oh yes I am, I am good at it
I said: I bet you're good at a lot of things
she said: I am good
I said: But I bet you cant take me down
she said: I bet I could
I said: How would you do that
she said: I can't tell you my secrets

And that ended. I know I f*cked that up. Now we joke about that every now and then but that is it. Lets here what some other people would have said, and lets hear some more advice about getting where I want to be (sex). I have never met this chick, got her number from hotornot.com...

 

[Arizona iced tea]

text her whenever the hell you feel like it... the most important part of texting is you cant hold anything back. you can say alot more via text than you would in person, especially with someone you just met. be bold, be funny, and give her a hard time. talk about sex and other things that might be uncomfortable to bring up in person, because after all, you dont have the backup of you expressions.

with that said, it is soooo important to be just as interesting in person when you do meet up. dont talk about everything on text, you need to save it. and dont be shy without the phones between you.

you are right, it is a great tool. just gotta learn to use it.

 

[GrimPhallic]

These convos have been goin on for three days. I guess it is different when you meet from the internet because the trust factor is not their. It takes a crap load more work to get the panties lol.

 

[GrimPhallic]

I told that chick I bet I could take her down, and her reply was: I know you could. Ugghh tease! Then I have brought up hangin out and she is always busy. WTF is this chick just a tease? So hard to tell...

 

[GrimPhallic]

well she is actually really busy the next two weeks... What should I do, leave her alone until she texts me?

 

[Arizona iced tea]

chill out dude. give it time...

 

[horaholic]

Why dont you jump on one of the countless other 'texting' threads floating around here? Its an endless debate.

Its all about how you use them.

Cons:
1 You can make yourself too available, by answering her texts too soon, or by leaving longer ones than her.
2. Setting up dates through texting is a pvssy move, and YES, chicks DO think so!
3. Things can get misinterpreted over texts easily.
4. Too easy to use the 'I didnt get your text' excuse.
5. chicks think you're too pvssy to use talk to them in person.
6. texting alone can not possibly build attraction. Attraction has to already be there.
7. Like spending too much time on the phone, texting can be a one way ticket to LJBF'sville, if done wrong.
8. Too easy for her to consider you her girlfriend.
9. Like you said, its 'less awkward for guys.' Which means, guys will use them as a crutch. This is both good and bad.

PRO's

1. You're almost guaranteed not to piss her off by interrupting. (once again, though, a real man wouldnt be concerned anyway)
2. You can choose your words carefully, IE. funny
3. You dont have to listen to her go "blah, blah, blah"
4. Dirty texting is always cool, but only after attraction has been built. And you can do it anytime, as opposed to the phone.
5. You can use the 'i didnt get your text excuse, also'
6. If you have a lot of girls numbers, you can mass text them something about going to a certain bar at a certain time, and hopefully, a few of them will show up.
7. If you're smart, you can make yourself seem more valuable than you are.

 

[GrimPhallic]

Thx horaholic. I didn't know there were other texting threads, I searched and did not find any.

So do you recommend calling them then after texting for a few days?