There are often threads started about life goals, missions, purposes, and other existential questions. I've often tried to answer the best I can, but I'm usually just summarizing the advice of one of the best writers to hit the manosphere.
LaidNYC had a blog for maybe five minutes. He wrote some legendary stuff. Then when I guess he'd said everything that he needed to, he took it all down. Which I guess is better than getting doxxed or canceled.
Nevertheless, I copied and saved this article years ago. I had to go searching for it. I think it's a really great guide for any man who's trying to find his path in life. It's probably HoF worthy, but I'll let the mods decide that.
*EDIT, for some reason he wrote two Laws #3. So I guess the list "goes to eleven."
Anyway, without further ado...
The 10 Laws of Finding Your Mission
LAIDNYC 2013
You’ve heard it before: Money can’t buy happiness.
Well, that’s bull****. Anyone who says money can’t buy happiness never made enough.
However, as important as it is for a man to get paid, it is really just the beginning. For a man to make the accumulation of money (or sex) his ultimate goal and ultimate marker of success in life is setting the bar too low*.
So, what then?
To be ultimately fulfilled in life, a man must pursue a mission.
This mission must be something he believes in and can pursue with a purpose.
The problem is that finding “meaning” in life doesn’t just fall from the sky. A lot of people have been given false expectations and entitlement from society, or fried their passionate brain into submission with video games and facebook. Young men today have no fear of going hungry and are never forced to direct their energies towards purposeful progress.
As a result, many young people today don’t have a clue what to do. They have no passion so they direct their energies towards ****ing girls or other briefly satisfying but unfulfilling pursuits.
Well its time to get back to the way men are supposed to be.
In the following pages I will define how any man can find a mission to pursue.
How did Slash decide to become a guitar player, Napolean to become a general, House to become a doctor, Michelangelo to become an artist, Tesla to become a scientist?
Read on. I am offering 10 Laws that any man can use to find his mission in life and pursue it to its fullest extent.
You will find both common sense and profound meaning in these 10 Laws.
You should respect them and refer to them each time you are having trouble.
If you read each of these 10 Laws and apply them, you will have a moment of clarity. You will find a mission to pursue.
*P.S. The dirty secret is that a true mission pursued properly will give a man more money and ***** than he can handle. This is why it should be a priority over learning game or single- mindedly pursuing cash at all costs.
Law #1: Don’t Starve
Look, first of all you need to realize that you are in a unique position.
Your ancestors and the vast majority of people throughout history and in the world today likely never got to pursue a higher purpose in life. Their mission was and is scripted to them: Work hard or starve.
The vast majority of people even in the world today don’t have the time or intelligence to ponder finding some higher fulfillment through a purpose in life. They must spend lots of valuable energy to earn their food and avoid death and disease.
If you are reading this, you likely have a more cushy life than 90% of the people in the world. Basically, you’re a lucky ****er.
However, you obviously aren’t riding around in limos getting caviar fed to you by Hawaiian Tropic models.
You too must make earning your daily bread a priority.
If you have a family to support, this takes precedence over finding your spiritual fulfillment through a purposeful mission. For many in the world, family is their mission. For the single man free of responsibility, there is much more wiggle room.
As I said in the intro, one of the best ways to make lots of money is by finding your true mission and pursuing it with vigor, so even a family man should find his mission.
Respect this rule to keep you grounded, but understand that you can likely find something that both feeds you and fulfills you, so don’t let a little thing like the electric bill give you an excuse not to find your mission.
Law #2: Your Mission is Not Necessarily How You Make Your Money
It’s true, one of the best ways to make gobs of money is to find a profitable mission and absolutely crush it.
However, the reality of the world is that which you find a deep drive to do is not necessarily something that people will pay you for.
That’s cool, the world needs ditch diggers, too.
Just know that it is your responsibility to make sure your job doesn’t suck your soul away from you.
If you find a mission that does not pay you money immediately, you must choose a job that allows you time to pursue it. Ideally, you need to choose a job that is similar in nature to your mission and uses the same aptitudes.
If your mission is to be a novelist, keep your pen moving by being a copywriter in your daily life. If your mission is to be a musician or artist, give lessons.
If your mission is to be a vampire, become a phlebotomist.
Or whatever. Just stay in your wheelhouse.
Then there are non-financial missions altogether.
Most male protagonists in movies are on a mission.
Liam Neeson’s mission in Taken was to save his teenage daughter.
Will Smith’s mission in every movie is to save the world from something weird.
Your life is not a movie, but you too may be compelled to take on a mission that has no chance of paying you money.
Sometimes it will even cost you money. You should have some cash saved up in order to pursue a mission when the inspiration strikes you. I’m not saying someone is going to kidnap your daughter, but they might (if she’s hot), so be ready. Or just be ready to pursue a mission all the way from the shores of Argentina to the *****houses of Thailand if you have to.
Law # 3: Stick To It
You need to understand that you have been fed lies your whole life.
One of them is "find something you love and you'll never work a day in your life."
As a result, we view boredom with our work as a negative. We start to work on something that excites us and after the initial burst of energy wears off, we reach a plateau. Plateaus are boring.
When you reach resistance, you think ‘this must not be my true passion’. Bull****.
Your mission will not be all sunshine and puppies.
You are going to have to work at it.
The ability to withstand boredom, frustration and hardship in order to get better at something is the watermark of a man living his mission.
Embrace the hardship that you must fight through as a barrier that will keep others from achieving the mastery you will achieve.
Mastery brings true enjoyment, and mastery can only be enjoyed by fighting through boredom and plateaus.
Fight through boredom. Persevere.
LAW #3: A Man Can Be Well-Suited For Many Different Missions
People get caught up in thinking about finding their one true passion like betas think about a girl being their one true soulmate. They think there is one thing they were meant to do. Only that thing will make them happy, and they haven't found it yet.
Bull****.
Truth is, you are probably well equipped for many missions and you would be happy doing any of them. The problem is picking one and really going for it.
Arnold Schwarzenegger was a bodybuilder, then an actor, then a politician. The successes lead into each other, but they are not similar in a day to day regard at all.
Sure, Arnold is a genetic god, but the arenas he dominated are not that similar. He had great potentials in each area, but his greatest quality was the ability to channel raw ambition. You may not be an Arnold but you DO have a unique set of potentials to hone and amplify, and you have as much ambition as you decide.
So what do you do?
Keep try different things and go hard at them. This is important and leads in to the next law.
LaidNYC had a blog for maybe five minutes. He wrote some legendary stuff. Then when I guess he'd said everything that he needed to, he took it all down. Which I guess is better than getting doxxed or canceled.
Nevertheless, I copied and saved this article years ago. I had to go searching for it. I think it's a really great guide for any man who's trying to find his path in life. It's probably HoF worthy, but I'll let the mods decide that.
*EDIT, for some reason he wrote two Laws #3. So I guess the list "goes to eleven."
Anyway, without further ado...
The 10 Laws of Finding Your Mission
LAIDNYC 2013
You’ve heard it before: Money can’t buy happiness.
Well, that’s bull****. Anyone who says money can’t buy happiness never made enough.
However, as important as it is for a man to get paid, it is really just the beginning. For a man to make the accumulation of money (or sex) his ultimate goal and ultimate marker of success in life is setting the bar too low*.
So, what then?
To be ultimately fulfilled in life, a man must pursue a mission.
This mission must be something he believes in and can pursue with a purpose.
The problem is that finding “meaning” in life doesn’t just fall from the sky. A lot of people have been given false expectations and entitlement from society, or fried their passionate brain into submission with video games and facebook. Young men today have no fear of going hungry and are never forced to direct their energies towards purposeful progress.
As a result, many young people today don’t have a clue what to do. They have no passion so they direct their energies towards ****ing girls or other briefly satisfying but unfulfilling pursuits.
Well its time to get back to the way men are supposed to be.
In the following pages I will define how any man can find a mission to pursue.
How did Slash decide to become a guitar player, Napolean to become a general, House to become a doctor, Michelangelo to become an artist, Tesla to become a scientist?
Read on. I am offering 10 Laws that any man can use to find his mission in life and pursue it to its fullest extent.
You will find both common sense and profound meaning in these 10 Laws.
You should respect them and refer to them each time you are having trouble.
If you read each of these 10 Laws and apply them, you will have a moment of clarity. You will find a mission to pursue.
*P.S. The dirty secret is that a true mission pursued properly will give a man more money and ***** than he can handle. This is why it should be a priority over learning game or single- mindedly pursuing cash at all costs.
Law #1: Don’t Starve
Look, first of all you need to realize that you are in a unique position.
Your ancestors and the vast majority of people throughout history and in the world today likely never got to pursue a higher purpose in life. Their mission was and is scripted to them: Work hard or starve.
The vast majority of people even in the world today don’t have the time or intelligence to ponder finding some higher fulfillment through a purpose in life. They must spend lots of valuable energy to earn their food and avoid death and disease.
If you are reading this, you likely have a more cushy life than 90% of the people in the world. Basically, you’re a lucky ****er.
However, you obviously aren’t riding around in limos getting caviar fed to you by Hawaiian Tropic models.
You too must make earning your daily bread a priority.
If you have a family to support, this takes precedence over finding your spiritual fulfillment through a purposeful mission. For many in the world, family is their mission. For the single man free of responsibility, there is much more wiggle room.
As I said in the intro, one of the best ways to make lots of money is by finding your true mission and pursuing it with vigor, so even a family man should find his mission.
Respect this rule to keep you grounded, but understand that you can likely find something that both feeds you and fulfills you, so don’t let a little thing like the electric bill give you an excuse not to find your mission.
Law #2: Your Mission is Not Necessarily How You Make Your Money
It’s true, one of the best ways to make gobs of money is to find a profitable mission and absolutely crush it.
However, the reality of the world is that which you find a deep drive to do is not necessarily something that people will pay you for.
That’s cool, the world needs ditch diggers, too.
Just know that it is your responsibility to make sure your job doesn’t suck your soul away from you.
If you find a mission that does not pay you money immediately, you must choose a job that allows you time to pursue it. Ideally, you need to choose a job that is similar in nature to your mission and uses the same aptitudes.
If your mission is to be a novelist, keep your pen moving by being a copywriter in your daily life. If your mission is to be a musician or artist, give lessons.
If your mission is to be a vampire, become a phlebotomist.
Or whatever. Just stay in your wheelhouse.
Then there are non-financial missions altogether.
Most male protagonists in movies are on a mission.
Liam Neeson’s mission in Taken was to save his teenage daughter.
Will Smith’s mission in every movie is to save the world from something weird.
Your life is not a movie, but you too may be compelled to take on a mission that has no chance of paying you money.
Sometimes it will even cost you money. You should have some cash saved up in order to pursue a mission when the inspiration strikes you. I’m not saying someone is going to kidnap your daughter, but they might (if she’s hot), so be ready. Or just be ready to pursue a mission all the way from the shores of Argentina to the *****houses of Thailand if you have to.
Law # 3: Stick To It
You need to understand that you have been fed lies your whole life.
One of them is "find something you love and you'll never work a day in your life."
As a result, we view boredom with our work as a negative. We start to work on something that excites us and after the initial burst of energy wears off, we reach a plateau. Plateaus are boring.
When you reach resistance, you think ‘this must not be my true passion’. Bull****.
Your mission will not be all sunshine and puppies.
You are going to have to work at it.
The ability to withstand boredom, frustration and hardship in order to get better at something is the watermark of a man living his mission.
Embrace the hardship that you must fight through as a barrier that will keep others from achieving the mastery you will achieve.
Mastery brings true enjoyment, and mastery can only be enjoyed by fighting through boredom and plateaus.
Fight through boredom. Persevere.
LAW #3: A Man Can Be Well-Suited For Many Different Missions
People get caught up in thinking about finding their one true passion like betas think about a girl being their one true soulmate. They think there is one thing they were meant to do. Only that thing will make them happy, and they haven't found it yet.
Bull****.
Truth is, you are probably well equipped for many missions and you would be happy doing any of them. The problem is picking one and really going for it.
Arnold Schwarzenegger was a bodybuilder, then an actor, then a politician. The successes lead into each other, but they are not similar in a day to day regard at all.
Sure, Arnold is a genetic god, but the arenas he dominated are not that similar. He had great potentials in each area, but his greatest quality was the ability to channel raw ambition. You may not be an Arnold but you DO have a unique set of potentials to hone and amplify, and you have as much ambition as you decide.
So what do you do?
Keep try different things and go hard at them. This is important and leads in to the next law.
