"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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THAT situation.

SynapsyS

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Long time reader, first time poster. I've been a member of CAD's LL for about a year, so compliments to Thor and Stonez if they're reading.

This is a common situation (read: problem) for me. I'm confident enough and well oiled enough to approach random girls at the shops, or in cafes or wherever, but I have a lot of trouble closing.

At the moment, I have an awesome rapport going with a girl I met on Tuesday morning at a Study Skills workshop at my school. She goes to a different school, but lives within a 10 minute bike ride of me.

Tomorrow will be the last day I'll see her, unless I close. I suggested lunch today; "I'm REALLY hungry, we should go grab some lunch." However, she declined, because she had "a ton of work to do", but also because her sister had flown back from work in Japan to see her for her birthday, so i'm taking it as a valid reason not to go, rather than a shut out. Also, we spent a good 10 minutes talking about random stuff after that, while I walked her to the front of the school.

She's a really nice person, and very interesting: she's studying to be a pilot, and all the stuff that goes with that. I've been negging her about the fact that her knees crack every now and then, and she playfully hits me. And etc.

However, despite the awesome time i've had with her for the last few days, I'm struggling with the close. That is, getting her number etc. I know, it's such a simple thing, but this is really the only thing I have trouble with in the entire game. Approaching and everything after the close I'm great with, but the actual close is always awkward and not very effective.

Here are some ways i've considered:

- We sit together in the tutorial, but there isn't much opportunity to talk, except for my occasional jokes or witty comments. Would it be viable to say, write down on my book "Name: (linebreak) Number:"? Just keep it simple?

- After the tutorial, simply saying "You know, i've really enjoyed this week. Write your number down *offer something to write on*"

- Something else?

It may be of worth to know that we seem to get on really well, despite only having perhaps 3 hours contact time.

Help me with the close! I have ~18 hours ;)

Thanks guys.
Syn.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Youll NEVER EVER see her again if you dont get her number. And that means no steamy hot butt sex. Haha, but seriously, i dont get how you people can approach but not suggest hangin out and getting the number.
Heres what you do:
You: ...we should get together sometime
Her: ohhh yaaaay awesome, sounds greaatt
You: jea, let me get your number real quick
Her: ok its blah blah blah
You: schweetness, ill talk to you soon
Her: ok i cant wait, my panties are so wet

And then youre done, its like taking candy from a retard.
 

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Hahahahahahahaha...

..hahahahahahahahahah....

*breath*

..hahaha.

You sir have just made my day. I've spent about an hour talking one of the other guys who regularly posted on LL, and who's also good with girls, on MSN.

We both ended up agreeing that I'm taking the whole thing WAY too seriously, and overthinking it. Despite all my training, sometimes it still gets to me when I think i'm onto something good, as opposed to chatting and getting numbers just for fun and showing off.

I suppose this thread is done really. I'll post with how it went (obviously, it's such a minor thing, but if I can overcome this problem, then hurrah for me eh) tmw afternoon.

Thanks.
Syn.
 
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