"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That one plate...

Brandonc662

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I'm sure you guys have had that one plate that is, in your mind, a cut above the rest. My question is, if you see your not making the progress you would like, should you next, put her on the back burner, or just continue trying to game as if you have nothing to lose and can only gain knowledge from it? What do you guys think is best?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Brandonc662 said:
I'm sure you guys have had that one plate that is, in your mind, a cut above the rest. My question is, if you see your not making the progress you would like, should you next, put her on the back burner, or just continue trying to game as if you have nothing to lose and can only gain knowledge from it? What do you guys think is best?
I think you need to provide more information for people to be able to give better advice. Such as: why are you not making the progress you would like?

Also, there is nothing wrong with having that "one plate" that's better than others, that's a good thing. That means you've (possibly) found a decent woman. But make sure to have more to keep yourself in check.

Suggested reading: Building the Bullpen

Edit: The reading is HIGHLY suggested :p
 

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I think plate theory is not working for you. By definition you shouldn't be feeling like this. You might as well be dating 1 person.
 

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You proceed with plates the same way you would with a stock portfolio. A certain stock may seem like dynamite but then it consistently underperforms. At a certain point you just have to cut your losses and move on. Same deal here.

If it ain't working, it ain't working and there's no point in fretting over it. Sometimes, it's not going to work out with a girl no matter how well you play it. See if you make any progress with this girl. If you do, then great. But at a certain point, it's time to hit the next button.
 
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