Texting your girlfriend- day by day rules?

[zorg198]

Hello guys,

I have a question, what are the rules of texting your girlfriend? is a good morning from you is the thing needs to be sent every day. does i really need to text her during the day? she complains i suck at texting because she says it not fun . i learn and read books and articles about the art of texting but i want to ask you guys. how i make the texting fun and interesting on the same time. i mean if i dont have nothing to say i just dont write it , but if she sends me i can ignore it for a while but i need to respond in the end right?


Joe.

 

[zorg198]

I see , so what are the common rules of texting her. i mean where i cross the line here? to send her a good morning text ? because if i don't she complains why i don't do it and ignore her , im not sensitive blah blah blah....

Joe.

 

[Sino Zane]

Never respond immediately to texts unless it's an emergency.

You can text her good morning, but once she texts you back, respond 4+ hours later. When you respond, keep your messages short.

If you want to meet her, text her saying so, and when she responds, wait an hour or two and then say "ok, cool" or something like this. Then, don't text her again until about 20-30 minutes prior to meeting her.

 

[zorg198]

I feel i need to be better with this , yesterday she told me , me texting her is horrible and its making her angry of my answers , like i am a machine or something. not sensitivities , or any interesting stuff in it. either way i want to make it better for myself not for her. she can screw herself. its not about her.

 

[asa_don]

the texting isn't the problem, sounds like your woman is the problem. she should be happy to get any text from you, instead she is criticizing you. not good for a relationship.

there are no real rules for texting, just don't over text and be boring. keep it fun and text when you feel like it, don't feel like you have to text her back every mintue she texts you. as long as you communicate that's what is important.

 

[zorg198]

She says its boring , she wants to have texts from me but she says its not fun because i make it boring , make it looks like i answer like a machine , noting in it.

she is right because i read the text i write and its horrible. how i make the texting light and fun , i really appreciate your help with this.

 

[asa_don]

how do you talk with her in person or on the phone? are you that boring too? text her like you talk with her in person, make it fun and have a convo like that.

are her texts boring? next time she texts you joke around with her, play with it a little. texting isnt everything in a relationship you know

She sometimes tells me on the phone i don't have a lot of topics to talk with her and its also boring. i feel like i need to step up in the game and improve myself to be better. where do i start ?

what do you when you are with her in person? boring too?

let her bring up the topics and converse with her, joke, tease etc.

 

[zorg198]

She sometimes tells me on the phone i don't have a lot of topics to talk with her and its also boring. i feel like i need to step up in the game and improve myself to be better. where do i start ?

 

[Sino Zane]

...tell her she's boring.

 

[Fireballs]

I also follow the golden 2/3 rule when texting a girlfriend and always texting back shorter replies than what she has written.

If my text isn't flirty/teasing/joking around or logistical (setting up a date etc..), then I simply won't send one.

Were you texting her alot when you first met and now you have stopped?

 

[zorg198]

We initially talked via Facebook, it was good because it took time for her and for me to see the msg so it was not immediate. so i think its should be like that right?

 

[TARKUS]

I would lay off the texting and start laying her instead.

 

[zorg198]

laying her is been already done .... the question is should i lay off texting her completely?

 

[Thorninmyside]

Flirt. Get her pants wet. The gaming doesn't stop. Don't be overly available, but when you text her, tell her what you're gonna do to her next time you see her. Then wait a long time to reply to her text which will probably be immediate.

"How was your day?" Texting is chumpy.

 

[Greasy Pig]

If texting her good morning makes her feel good, why not do it?
I resisted my girlfriend's request for this and it just led to drama.
Now she knows to expect a text from me every morning and that's cool. I don't feel like I'm chumping out or handing her my balls.
In saying that, your girl sounds like a whining little brat.
Even if you do text her she throws it back in your face like some spoilt child.
Fvck that.
Asking you to text is one thing. Telling you how she wants it done is another thing entirely.
If you don't want to tell her to fvck off, keep your texts funny, light and outrageously flirty.
Ask her what colour undies she's wearing that day, tell her you want to see her that night but she should be sitting nude on the couch when you arrive.
If it's still not good enough, tell her to find another lap dog.

 

[zorg198]

I wanted to ask something , to see if i made the right decision.

one hour ago she called me and told me she misses me , she wants me to come. initially she supposed to meet her girlfriend but she canceled ,now she calls me and asks me to come. i told her no- i have plans with my friend. she got bit upset im not doing what she wants. i told her i have to go and talk to her later. previously i would drive to her house and see her although i didn't want to , today i put my foot and told her no! what you guys think? im not a second choice.

 

[goldengoose]

I wanted to ask something , to see if i made the right decision.

one hour ago she called me and told me she misses me , she wants me to come. initially she supposed to meet her girlfriend but she canceled ,now she calls me and asks me to come. i told her no- i have plans with my friend. she got bit upset im not doing what she wants. i told her i have to go and talk to her later. previously i would drive to her house and see her although i didn't want to , today i put my foot and told her no! what you guys think? im not a second choice.

Who's leading in this relationship, you or her? Sounds to me like you are doing everything that SHE wants you to do until you just put your foot down. Looks like she is playing games with you wanting to start fights which is leading for a break up.

Texting shouldn't be that big of a deal like she is making it out to be. If you text her "Good Morning Babe" every so often she should be happy. There is no need to have full on text conversations with your girlfriend all the time.

Her saying you're boring and being critical of you is not a good sign, that's what happens when women are about to break up with you.

I wouldn't deal with her crap, go out and have fun with your friends, meet better women who won't give you sh1t.

 

[zorg198]

The fact is she said i have a lot of behavior issues that effect her, not her a lot of people i talked with.

She says i overanalayze everything , digg her brain about a topic instead of know when to let go... i'm not making a meaning conversation with her , staying unattached. a lot of my friends told me this as well and this is what she is not happy about.

 

[asa_don]

The fact is she said i have a lot of behavior issues that effect her, not her a lot of people i talked with.

She says i overanalayze everything , digg her brain about a topic instead of know when to let go... i'm not making a meaning conversation with her , staying unattached. a lot of my friends told me this as well and this is what she is not happy about.

i'm confused here man, you said she says you're boring with no topics, now you say you dig her brain about a topic? let her do the talking, just chime in with a few things.