Texting calibration

[Shantaram]

Hello mates,
I just came across a singular predicament. The context: I said that after 3 kisses (emojis or just the word mentioned during the conversation) she'll go out with me. After the second, we already set the date (she lives in a different province) tge conversation is full of banter and freely flows, however it didn't scalate to sexual too often.
Today for the first time, she texted me first (I would usually leave her in seen and then restart the convo after a week or two) sending "Hello + emoji kiss". My question is that at gut level I feel like she wants yo establish a normal rapport with everyday topics and stuff like that and not just Banter and teasing as we usually talk, however I'm not sure if that's the best wsy to approach cause the convo can turn dull and boring instead of the funny banter needed during this boring times. Here in my country, bars, clubs, restaurants, etc are not open and you cannot go out after 8pm.
Need advice on the tooics folks and reasons why.
Thanks a lot.

 

[Trojan3000]

Here's my take on it, and I'm not saying this is the right answer ( i understand the complexity and vast diversity of women and personalities). That being said, I'll give you an educated and experienced perspective.

1) I have not seen or felt any objective in reading your post. This is important because if you don't have an objective in mind, you're just allowing yourself to fall into a box. This can be any box from "fun/attention texting buddy" to "potential date, love interest".

2) However, from what I read, this might just fall into a more friendlier type sitaution as you both are looking to text to pass time it seems to me.. I mean its not getting sexual or anything..

3) If you want this to be a sexual thing, you need to stop talking/texting.. who cares about that stuff? I sure dont.. I keep myself busy with things like fitness, sports, going out, hanging with buds, pursuing other women who can actually keep my attention.

4) Only talk when shes giving you something to play upon. and you, you have to make it sexual. She wont. Tell her what you want to do with her. Its that ****in simple. If she doesn't like you, shes not going to like what youw ant to do with her. If she does, shes going to reciprocate, or be shy, but either way, you're headed in more of a direction you want.. unless of course, you want to be her little texting buddy.

Hope this helps

P.S. here's an #5) as I understand not everyone's here to spin plates. If you do want to pursue her as a potential love/interest partner.. A bit of 3) still stands.. You don't have to text and talk all the time.. I mean what fun is that. If you want to escalate, at leastcall her on the phone, maybe video chat her, so u can't least start fliritng a bit more directly.. If video chatting is not your thing,just keep it fun and sexy, and just set a date and time.. don't need to talk to her much till then. At the end of the day man, you should be having options and other places to put your attention. Why limit yourself to one situation and wait and watch water boil?

 

[Shantaram]

Awesome mate! I appreciate the advice, I'll take it into consideration and keep updating so time will tell if I did right or wrong. Cheers.