Text help - asap!

[jt4567]

Okay, so I had a date set up with this girl I met recently for this Saturday, but I just got a text from her this morning saying "Hey i actually cant go this weekend. I totally spaced that my sister is coming down on saturday. sorry! Maybe another time?"
So, in my attempt to be C&F, I replied, "maybe another time? Wow girl! I didn't know you were that desparate to hang with me haha jk but ok I'll see."

Now she just really showed that she's got game and replied, "Hah. Or not. "

I know she finds me interesting and all, but what should I say back to that?

 

[francoatgrex]

I think you did fine, good reply, and she is also playing it fine. I have my doubts about her excuse (sister etc..) I think she's playing/testing but you seem to be still in good control. I wouldn't do anything for a while, not contact her and wait until she gets back to you about the rescheduling of the date.

 

[Iceberg]

Say nothing. The next text you send to her should be on...let's say Tuesday....setting up a date for Thursday. If you get another excuse, then you know she's no good. Besides, there's nothing left to say. You made a joke. She made a joke back. How long is this conversation supposed to go on?

Rule to live by: Always let the girl send the last text.

EDIT
another rule to live by: don't text too much. It's gay.

 

[the_stig]

Say something like "I might be free next friday, ill let you know" and then hit her up sometime next week and seal the deal.

I haven't been on this site very long but it seems like some people way over use c&f and make themselves look silly. She offered to reschedule so you're fine, no need to write her off as a flake yet or jump to conclusions.

 

[vatoloco]

My response to any kind of flake via text is always my infallible text. Next time go with something like this:

Flake: "Hey i actually cant go this weekend. I totally spaced that my sister is coming down on saturday. sorry! Maybe another time?"
You: "Who is this?"

Take it from there.

And keep texting to a minimum.

 

[francoatgrex]

Rule to live by: Always let the girl send the last text.
EDIT
another rule to live by: don't text too much. It's gay.

So very true. Unfortunately we don't always remember to do it.

 

[loveshogun]

Agreed on not texting too much.

Aside - I want to eventually be the kind of guy who can get a girl without saying a single f*ckin' word.

THAT would be badass beyong motherf*ckin' belief.

 

[RockaRolla25]

My response to any kind of flake via text is always my infallible text. Next time go with something like this:

Flake: "Hey i actually cant go this weekend. I totally spaced that my sister is coming down on saturday. sorry! Maybe another time?"
You: "Who is this?"

Take it from there.

And keep texting to a minimum.

Be careful though. I once had a girl say to me: "I don't like it how I'm always the first one to text you. It makes me think you don't want to talk to me unless you are forced to."

 

[francoatgrex]

Be careful though. I once had a girl say to me: "I don't like it how I'm always the first one to text you. It makes me think you don't want to talk to me unless you are forced to."

And that's bad how?

 

[vatoloco]

Be careful though. I once had a girl say to me: "I don't like it how I'm always the first one to text you. It makes me think you don't want to talk to me unless you are forced to."

It's actually a great test. If the chick is marginally interested, she will get pissed and/or may lose interest. But if her IL is high, she'll play along.

This girl I recently went exclusive with messaged me several days ago: "In light of the fact that you don't write to me, I will have to do it myself... hahaha j/k. How are you?" I told her: "Hahaha! Sweetheart, you know I'm a man of few words... "

I test her IL this way. If she plays along, her IL is still high...

 

[runner83]

Say nothing. The next text you send to her should be on...let's say Tuesday....setting up a date for Thursday. If you get another excuse, then you know she's no good. Besides, there's nothing left to say. You made a joke. She made a joke back. How long is this conversation supposed to go on?

Rule to live by: Always let the girl send the last text.

EDIT
another rule to live by: don't text too much. It's gay.

^ ^ This.

 

[Chickfight]

My response to any kind of flake via text is always my infallible text. Next time go with something like this:

Flake: "Hey i actually cant go this weekend. I totally spaced that my sister is coming down on saturday. sorry! Maybe another time?"
You: "Who is this?"

Take it from there.

And keep texting to a minimum.

Really? That works for you? I don't see how you can expect a girl to buy that you didn't even save her number and completely forgot about your date. Just seems obvious you're playing dumb games.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I think you did fine, good reply, and she is also playing it fine. I have my doubts about her excuse (sister etc..) I think she's playing/testing but you seem to be still in good control. I wouldn't do anything for a while, not contact her and wait until she gets back to you about the rescheduling of the date.

And how is this method working out for you?

You REALLY "wait" for the girl to contact you after she's canceled on you and you haven't even gone out on one date?

I'm sure you wouldn't be holding your breath on these call backs or making any bets with your buddies over this....

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As others said, its good that you used some humor to show that your not easily bothered and more importantly your not an AFC. However, I still think the text was lame.

As Iceberg said, I'd leave it alone for a few days, hit her up again early next week. When you try and set something up its always best to give the girl a couple options so increase your chances of her saying "yes." If she can't make either of the days you say your free AND doesn't counter, you know what to do.





PIMP