"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Text Game and escalation

Dr.Jay

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Whats up guys? Im a community college student working on graduating and moving on to a university.I don't have a problem talking to girls and closing the number,but its like every time i close a girls number.We text and its like we end up at a stand still. Anyone have any good advice or suggestions on developing a good text game and escalating?It would really be appreciated:up:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TK-421

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Texting is for friends

texting is useless. It just beats around the bush and accomplishes nothing. What you should do is just text for setting dates.

Initially, this kinda threw me off too, "What's wrong with texting?" I thought.

This is the answer that I came too:

Texting allows people to contact you and start a conversation at virtually any time they please. This is a relatively new invention. Cavemen couldn't do this, your parents couldn't do this, hell 10 years ago you couldn't do this sh!t.

The mind still has to adapt, every time you have a text conversation, your mind thinks you actually saw this person and talked to them. If you text a girl, even with moderation, she still makes the connection that she spoke to you, and eventually, she will think you guys talk too much, then by the laws of mathematics, bam! friendzoned.

Keeping texting to a minimum can increase your scarcity value, as well as give her the sense that she is secondary to your life(Since texting is virtually effortless, not texting means you prefer not to be interrupted).
 

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Recently, flying back from Asia, I met a gorgeous flight attendant. We swapped numbers and started a text thing.

She said something a little sexy/funny and I used the opportunity to tell here that I would keep our messages SFW (safe for work) 'for now'. That opened the door to increasingly sex oriented texting back and forth while she was on a trip to/from Shanghai.

When she got back, we met for drinks. I all but did her in a church courtyard next to the bar we met in. We kept each other up all night when we got back to her place. And we will see each other again, 'schedules permitting'.

Yep, not the normal. But don't kid yourselves. Texting can lead directly to the sweet spot.
 
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