"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tell women that I'm using them?

superchristx

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I talked to my ex girlfriend (M) the other day over the phone. We've been over for about a month now, now lingering feelings and only a little hostility between us. But she wanted to know the real reason I broke up with her, because I had given her a couple different answers. I told her the truth this time, I told her that I was still in love with my first girlfriend (E) and that I wasn't emotionally available to M and she was falling hard for me. So I broke it off to spare her feelings. I felt like a pretty righteous guy but M was pissed, saying that I misled her from the beginning. She said I was just using her for "experience" which I guess is technically true. E loves me, but she was my first and she wants me to try other women. I talk to her, it's cool, I even tell her when I find a new one. She lives long distance now, which complicates things.

M said that this is something I need to tell girls I date, that I'm in love with another woman and emotionally unavailable. I've just started a new one (K) and we haven't gotten serious. She says she wants to keep it light, yeah I've heard that before. I don't want to listen to advice from a woman, especially my bitter ex-girlfriend. Tell me, am I obligated to warn the girls that I date, kiss, **** that I'm really just using them? Seems like a bad idea.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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penkitten

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your ex is sabatoging your future prospects.

keep it simple silly
dont tell people you are using them.
 

booga

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Originally posted by superchristx
She lives long distance now, which complicates things.
No it doesn't, it simplifies things. She lives somewhere else. She is not available. She is gone.

I don't want to listen to advice from a woman, especially my bitter ex-girlfriend.
If you DO listen, you will deserve everything you will get.

M said that this is something I need to tell girls I date, that I'm in love with another woman and emotionally unavailable.
Yes, this will go over splendidly. I'm sure they will love to hear that. Listen: STOP THINKING YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH SOME OLD FLAME WHO DOESN'T EVEN LIVE NEAR YOU. Stop it! Stop it now!

There. Feel better? Now you don't have to lie to anyone.
 
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