"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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- Ditched this girl I was seeing one night. We went to a local fast food joint to meet one of my friends who was bored and lonely after I saw a movie with my date. Anywho after the joint it's my friend, her and me. Her friends come by in rollerblades and she's outside talking to them for about 10 minutes. My friend and I get bored so we wave good bye to them and leave. I get a call from one of her friends in the next few minutes saying I was a **** and that my "girl-friend" is pissed. My "girlfriend" later tells me I made her cry and she never cries. I apologized because I felt like a ****.

- The day after the above incident was prom. I didn't really talk to her much that day, nor did I dance with her much (I did a few slow dances with her). Felt akward. She was upset about this one too.

- When we go on dates I tend to not pay for her (if we go to the movies, I usually make her pay, but food and icecream, etc I usually get the tab). She has given me **** for it, but it's playful. I think if it really bugged her she wouldn't say anything about it and let it build up over time. She makes alot more money then I do because I work about 4 hours a week... yes radioindustry sucks **** sometimes. This one I'm not too worried about, because I don't know if she'll be around in a couple months and I love money.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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f*ck that b1tch, why should you spend all your money and she not have to pay a dime
 
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Obsidian said:
f*ck that b1tch, why should you spend all your money and she not have to pay a dime
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You're an idiot.
 
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Definitely don't let her whine about the fact that you're not buying everything. That's just crap.

If you didn't dance with her much at prom, yeah that was kinda dumb. Why wouldn't you dance with your gf? If you say it made her upset (rather than it being her choice not to dance with you), I can understand why.

The first one -- about ditching her when you're going out -- sounds a little iffy. I personally wouldn't have done it. But then again, I've been known to act a bit chumpish myself (so I myself would be more likely to go toward the opposite extreme of being too nice).


You seem to be forgetting one overall rule: Reward good behavior, and punish bad behavior. It seems stupid to ditch a girl on a date unless she was chatting up someone else for a long time and ignoring you. Same with the dance -- Why the hell wouldn't you dance with her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I didn't really dance with her because it felt akward. Just the night before I ditched her and made her cry then bam it's prom, time to smile, take pictures, and dance. Just felt weird.
 
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itishe said:
- Ditched this girl I was seeing one night. We went to a local fast food joint to meet one of my friends who was bored and lonely after I saw a movie with my date. Anywho after the joint it's my friend, her and me. Her friends come by in rollerblades and she's outside talking to them for about 10 minutes. My friend and I get bored so we wave good bye to them and leave. I get a call from one of her friends in the next few minutes saying I was a **** and that my "girl-friend" is pissed. My "girlfriend" later tells me I made her cry and she never cries. I apologized because I felt like a ****.

- The day after the above incident was prom. I didn't really talk to her much that day, nor did I dance with her much (I did a few slow dances with her). Felt akward. She was upset about this one too.

- When we go on dates I tend to not pay for her (if we go to the movies, I usually make her pay, but food and icecream, etc I usually get the tab). She has given me **** for it, but it's playful. I think if it really bugged her she wouldn't say anything about it and let it build up over time. She makes alot more money then I do because I work about 4 hours a week... yes radioindustry sucks **** sometimes. This one I'm not too worried about, because I don't know if she'll be around in a couple months and I love money.
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Have a date going bowling tonight. I plan to not pay for her.

1. I suggested pool and since the table is at the bowling alley she wanted to bowl.
2. I'm not married to her.
3. Bowling is expensive.
 
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