"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tell her things about my private life

mikee

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There's this girl I feel attracted to and we talk a lot.
Sometime ago I told her my grandmother was sick at the hospital, and she gave me a lot of support. Yesterday my grandmother's condition worsened so I feel like telling her, however I'm afraid I'm telling her too much about my private life.

Should I tell her ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lonewolf17

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My greatest success has come in being very slow and cryptic (in a funny way, not a creepy way) about my personal life. So when they ask about what my job is, I'll say something funny and witty, they'll laugh, but then I'll immediately move the conversation to being about them. This way you get them to talk about themselves (which they love) and create an aura of mystery around yourself. Eventually you do need to talk about yourself, but give it away in pieces, always leaving them wanting for more information.

In terms of your situation, I would say if you are gaming this girl you not bring it up. If you need someone to talk to, find someone you are friends with, not someone you are gaming. If you talk to this girl about your situation, you are almost guarenteed to immediately be LJBFed.
 

Five To One

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Agreed.

Dont talk about it anymore. If she asks about your grandmother then talk about it but dont bring it up again. Be strong about it.
 
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