Tell Her She Loves You

[bigneil]

As you have probably learned the hard way, telling a girl you love her usually backfires. So what do you do instead?

Tell her she loves you!

When you do this she has to meet you half way and in the process reveals where you stand:

Example:

You: "There is something I have to tell you."
Her: "What is it?"
You: "You love me."
Her: "Ha ha! I love you?"
You: "I'm serious. I knew the moment I met you."
Her: "Ha ha ha. Well, I do like you. I mean I REALLY like you. Ok, I'm infatuated with you..."

In all seriousness, if you are a master of reading body language, you can truly see the signs (mainly she will hold eye contact indefinitely and will constantly be in physical contact (hand on knee, etc.)). Show her. Provide scientific evidence to support your claim.

Let me know your results.

 

[sylvester the cat]

As you have probably learned the hard way, telling a girl you love her usually backfires. So what do you do instead?

Tell her she loves you!

When you do this she has to meet you half way and in the process reveals where you stand:

Example:

You: "There is something I have to tell you."
Her: "What is it?"
You: "You love me."
Her: "Ha ha! I love you?"
You: "I'm serious. I knew the moment I met you."
Her: "Ha ha ha. Well, I do like you. I mean I REALLY like you. Ok, I'm infatuated with you..."

In all seriousness, if you are a master of reading body language, you can truly see the signs (mainly she will hold eye contact indefinitely and will constantly be in physical contact (hand on knee, etc.)). Show her. Provide scientific evidence to support your claim.

Let me know your results.

Lol.

 

[Renegade357]

Here's a question. When should you expect a chick to say she loves you? If she doesn't after you've been in an LTR with her for 6 months is that a bad sign? What do you guys think?

 

[VikingKing]

Here's a question. When should you expect a chick to say she loves you? If she doesn't after you've been in an LTR with her for 6 months is that a bad sign? What do you guys think?

You should learn to game her so well that she should say it. Its ok to show a woman you love her through your actions (but not by being a nice guy, or a weak ass)

Personally I don't think its bad, does she show you she does? When I start to show disinterest after I get bored with them, they will say stuff like, I want you to have my babies. Or they start to try hard to impress you or making a large effort to please you.

If she works hard to please you, this is good. You shouldn't need her to tell you she loves you, whether she tells you or not shouldn't be your concern as a woman in love will show you with her actions.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Next time you have the urge to say "You love me" with the goal of finding out "where you stand with her".. I suggest c*ming in her face instead. :crackup:

Look.. as long as you're f*cking her easily and regularly.. there is never a reason to worry about where you stand. That stuff is for women and faggots. As long has the relationship is mostly on your terms.. her interest level is HIGH.

She should be worrying if you love HER waaaay before you even THINK about love.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Next time you have the urge to say "You love me" with the goal of finding out "where you stand with her".. I suggest c*ming in her face instead. :crackup:

Look.. as long as you're f*cking her easily and regularly.. there is never a reason to worry about where you stand. That stuff is for women and faggots. As long has the relationship is mostly on your terms.. her interest level is HIGH.

She should be worrying if you love HER waaaay before you even THINK about love.

Well said!

 

[Renegade357]

Next time you have the urge to say "You love me" with the goal of finding out "where you stand with her".. I suggest c*ming in her face instead. :crackup:

Look.. as long as you're f*cking her easily and regularly.. there is never a reason to worry about where you stand. That stuff is for women and faggots. As long has the relationship is mostly on your terms.. her interest level is HIGH.

She should be worrying if you love HER waaaay before you even THINK about love.

I wonder if you've had many LTRs the way you are talking. Been there, done that and I disagree. You should constantly be polling her interest level. Otherwise you will be shocked when she pulls the rug out from under you. You may think things are on your terms. Be careful of chicks who go along with everything imo.

You go out with a chick for 6-8 months and she's willing to BANG (big shock chicks like secks too) but:
1. She never asks to meet your parents
2. Never says I love you
3. Never talks about the future including you in it.
4. Only talks about how hot you are physically but never anything good about your personality.
5. Does not initiate affection.

You're either being used, she's emotionally scarred or you're doing something wrong. Either way you got a problem.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I wonder if you've had many LTRs the way you are talking. Been there, done that and I disagree. You should constantly be polling her interest level. Otherwise you will be shocked when she pulls the rug out from under you. You may think things are on your terms. Be careful of chicks who go along with everything imo.

You go out with a chick for 6-8 months and she's willing to BANG (big shock chicks like secks too) but:
1. She never asks to meet your parents
2. Never says I love you
3. Never talks about the future including you in it.
4. Only talks about how hot you are physically but never anything good about your personality.
5. Does not initiate affection.

You're either being used, she's emotionally scarred or you're doing something wrong. Either way you got a problem.

I see what you're saying but disagree with the "constantly polling her interest level" part. Unless you are socially retarded, it will be pretty obvious if a girl sees you as relationship material or just a fvck buddy. I honestly don't think I've ever been in a situation where it wasn't clear where I stood with the girl. If you need to employ "tricks" to get the girl to say that she loves you, it's not a good sign...

 

[Renegade357]

I see what you're saying but disagree with the "constantly polling her interest level" part. Unless you are socially retarded, it will be pretty obvious if a girl sees you as relationship material or just a fvck buddy. I honestly don't think I've ever been in a situation where it wasn't clear where I stood with the girl. If you need to employ "tricks" to get the girl to say that she loves you, it's not a good sign...

I agree with the "tricks" part and would never advocate that. I've had a few relationships where I thought everything was going well because I was getting laid but then all of a sudden *poof* she's gone. I've realized later it's because I ignored certain signs/red flags and things that she wasn't doing.

Chicks will stay with a man they aren't in love with for a surprisingly long time. They are great actresses. Sad reality.

I'll admit this is a bit of a touchy subject with me. I've been through this before. I've resorted eventually after about 10 months to just saying "I love you" to her first just to see what the response was. She didn't say it back so I knew it was only a matter of time before that situation ended. I was right. I doubt I'd do that again. I'll say straight up I was no beta phaggot during the relationship either. You put time and energy into a girl you like and eventually you expect certain things to happen. When they don't you deal with it and move on.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I agree with the "tricks" part and would never advocate that. I've had a few relationships where I thought everything was going well because I was getting laid but then all of a sudden *poof* she's gone. I've realized later it's because I ignored certain signs/red flags and things that she wasn't doing.

Chicks will stay with a man they aren't in love with for a surprisingly long time. They are great actresses. Sad reality.

I'll admit this is a bit of a touchy subject with me. I've been through this before. I've resorted eventually after about 10 months to just saying "I love you" to her first just to see what the response was. She didn't say it back so I knew it was only a matter of time before that situation ended. I was right. I doubt I'd do that again. I'll say straight up I was no beta phaggot during the relationship either. You put time and energy into a girl you like and eventually you expect certain things to happen. When they don't you deal with it and move on.

A man should never be the driving force in building a relationship. Understand and internalize this concept and you will never have to deal with "relationship doubts" again. Traditionally, who benefitted the most from relationships? Women. They needed men to protect them, provide for them and their offspring, etc. Women are biologically hardwired to seek relationships while men are wired to seek sex. Once you have successfully convinced her to bang you, it is now her job to convince you that you should be in a relationship with her. I'm not saying that you should act completely disinterested and aloof...it does not hurt to show her every once in a while that you do care about her (in a non-AFC way). However, she is the one who's supposed to be doing all the heavy lifting at this point. If she's not showing signs of trying to "relationship you up", it's safe to assume she does not see you as a long-term prospect.

 

[Renegade357]

If she's not showing signs of trying to "relationship you up", it's safe to assume she does not see you as a long-term prospect.

Yeah, I think that pretty much sums up my original point. She wasn't doing the things to show me that she wanted to be with me long term so I more or less initiated the ending. I still think it's important for a man to look for those things and make sure a woman is serious and showing that she wants to "relationship you up". Otherwise you're just wasting your time when you could be with a better girl.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I wonder if you've had many LTRs the way you are talking. Been there, done that and I disagree. You should constantly be polling her interest level. Otherwise you will be shocked when she pulls the rug out from under you. You may think things are on your terms. Be careful of chicks who go along with everything imo.

You go out with a chick for 6-8 months and she's willing to BANG (big shock chicks like secks too) but:
1. She never asks to meet your parents
2. Never says I love you
3. Never talks about the future including you in it.
4. Only talks about how hot you are physically but never anything good about your personality.
5. Does not initiate affection.

You're either being used, she's emotionally scarred or you're doing something wrong. Either way you got a problem.

You should be spinning plates until you have kids with her.

You should also care LESS about the relationship than she does. ALWAYS. So if those things on your list upset you.. it means you have LOST THE GAME and the woman is in control.

Here's an idea --> If a girl you're dating isn't living up to your standards NEXT her! :crackup:

 

[JohnChops]

I'll give it a shot tonight and report back. Hanging out with a high interest girl so let's see where this expirment goes.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

As you have probably learned the hard way, telling a girl you love her usually backfires. So what do you do instead?

Tell her she loves you!

When you do this she has to meet you half way and in the process reveals where you stand:

Example:

You: "There is something I have to tell you."
Her: "What is it?"
You: "You love me."
Her: "Ha ha! I love you?"
You: "I'm serious. I knew the moment I met you."
Her: "Ha ha ha. Well, I do like you. I mean I REALLY like you. Ok, I'm infatuated with you..."

In all seriousness, if you are a master of reading body language, you can truly see the signs (mainly she will hold eye contact indefinitely and will constantly be in physical contact (hand on knee, etc.)). Show her. Provide scientific evidence to support your claim.

Let me know your results.

Sometimes when I haven't heard from a girl in a while I'll text her:

"Just wanted to let you know you miss me."

or

"Just wanted to let you know you were thinking about me."

Same type of thing, they'll usually respond with something playful. And then we're up and running again.

 

[JohnChops]

Reporting back from last night: worked like a charm. This girl was already interested (highly) so I sprung that line on her for ****s and giggles and she responded well. She got all cute and defensive and kept saying "heheh maybe you're right " ended up hooking up with her anyway. Good stuff Neil.

 

[bigneil]

Glad to hear it John!

It worked for me too (inspiring this post).

In my case we've been dating for about 2 months but she's been talking about a relationship from day 1 but we haven't had sex yet.

I followed her confession with "We're going to spend our lives together, and you're going to make me suffer tremendously."

She burst out laughing and hugged me and said "I won't make you suffer".

 

[JohnChops]

Glad to hear it John!

It worked for me too (inspiring this post).

In my case we've been dating for about 2 months but she's been talking about a relationship from day 1 but we haven't had sex yet.

I followed her confession with "We're going to spend our lives together, and you're going to make me suffer tremendously."

She burst out laughing and hugged me and said "I won't make you suffer".

That whole "haven't had sex yet...and its been two months" many guys here would call you an AFC beta etc but I agree with you Neil. Girls I actually want to date I'm not rushing into the lay, nor do I even care about getting laid ( you should have other girls on the aide for just that purpose to take the edge off). I can tell from that last line you two enjoy eachother. People here are wrapped up in the getting laid alpha be that they don't ENJOY BEING WITH WOMEN! **** their just another source of enjoyment not a god damn rubix cube. They wi be that way if you treat em in that manner. But some dudes don't learn. Cheers Neil seems like all is well.

 

[bigneil]

As long as the girl shows strong attraction and is always touching you, assuming you have kissed her, you can wait on sex. Especially if she tells you she wants to. The best sex is around the 2-3 months of dating mark, IMO. But you need to still try to do it soon or she might friend zone you.