"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
teenager vs mature thoughts
- Thread starter comic_relief
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
your just making me laugh right now:crackup:
that was totally not aimed in your direction, unless you are an internet poser, your not an internet poser are you? whatever if you are your doing your job right in making me laugh:crackup:
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I don't perceive anything as false and I actually listen to the people that talk about sex or drugs all the time to learn new things but when that is all they talk about, then I will try to steer the conversation towards something a little bit more interesting like the future or school work or something interesting that I read.
They don't know how to actually function in the real world. Its the sad part.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
Like someone said to me once, "why try to act a certain way to try to impress people that you probably won't see again after high school"
The only thing I can say to you is do well in your classes so you graduate, and take advantage of the free spanish classes. Being bilingual english/spanish is a huge plus when it comes to getting jobs in the USA these day and age. Other than that have fun in your remaining years of high school and stop building drama in your head.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
GQ_Confidence_1
Don Juan
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-You're suppose to learn, but they don't teach you anything important. You don't learn about human nature, dealing with people, managing your time, managing opportunity, balancing a checkbook, handling credit card debt. Everything is theory and memorization. Has memorization ever gotten you a job promotion? It's a joke.
-It doesn't mimic the real world. In the real world, you have to come to work on time, there are dress codes, there are codes of conduct.
If you guys want the secret to happiness, don't focus on stuff that doesn't matter. Do your own thing. No one has ever developed confidence by worrying about what other people are doing. Blaze your own trail.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
I felt like i was doing something wrong. i was just trying to study while the dumb *****es talked about laguna beach, and how theyre getting a paid trip by their daddies to cancun on spring break.
One of the girls is smart and studies and all so i dont really think shes dumb individually, but grouped together shes just like all the other dumb girls. Actually ive realized that if you talk to anyone individually most people are relativly mature, but once they group themselves they become imature and stupid. And it doesnt just apply to teens, it applies to people in general. So maybe its not so much of the mature vs teenager mentality but the mentality you get when youre trying to fit in.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i agree with most of your most but school on a hidden level does teach you important things. It does teach you about human nature as you interact with hundreds of people thoughout your school career. School gives you work, deadlines, so if youre smart youll realize that managing your time adequatly is an important part in life. School socializes you for the good or for the bad. learning academics is one thing but you also learn social skills.
I don’t know if this holds true at other high schools but at mine many of these things are simply not true. I know some people that are truly awesome and don’t hold any of those things true. In fact there’s quite a few people that don’t think like that. We have a whole club we started to discuss deeper topics then sex and booze (religion, world politics, philosophy, etc) and even discuss improving ourselves. I am one of the three founders of this club and it has over 120 members. That's a good chunk of our high school considering the fact that it’s a guys-only club due to the fact that guys are a lot more likely to discuss things like religion and emotions without a bunch of gossiping chicks around. Try band kids, they usually are smarter then the pack and think deeper.
SomeRandomGuy
Don Juan
I think high school is a miniature overview of the world. Maybe not in the same way but close. This world is all f&#! up everywhere you look, and its being shown in schools as well. Now the reason people talk about stupid things is because of there own deeper ignorance. And as sad as it may be, more than half of this world is ignorant, they believe everything on TV and ignore reality. And its not only in high schools its everywhere especially in adults.
Sure they wont talk about how they got laid anymore, or how they got wasted but they replace that with other unnecessary crap. So stop thinking or trying to understand why things are like this and start accepting them just like they are and just walking around them. Besides high school is short might as well laugh at everyone else’s stupidity because while the girls are thinking about Laguna beach and the guys are talking about how they had a wet dream you can be thinking on how to rule over the world lol and get ahead of the game.
Good Luck:rockon:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.