"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i'm currently seeing this girl who is late every other date. she's only late for about 10 mins. though. the thing is every time she's late, someone I know will always come up and talk to me and try to get me to hang out with them. So i shoot the breeze with them until she shows up.

every time this girl shows up though and see me with other people, the girl looks so god damn sad... like a little puppy. :crazy: i'm going to hang out with my friends, if they're around. i'm not going to shoot them off, b/c she looks so sad. so how do i deal with her tardiness?

just leave next time she's late? the thing is she's late about everywhere and with everyone... her friends, class, work. :nervous: her being late with me for around 10 mins. at most is actually not bad coming from her. the thing is she looks so sad, when i'm with other people instead of waiting for her solo during those 10 mins. :moon:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do you introduce her as your "late girlfriend" or is she too unactractive to introduce to your friends?
 

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MooseGod said:
As long as she's not late on her period, you're probably okay.
:crackup:

we all know each other. she knows my friends. i don't think i need to introduce her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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