gravityeyelids
Master Don Juan
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Okay so i met this girl at a party, i had met her like a year before while partying a few times because we have a bunch of friends in common, she was actually dating a guy i knew from high school. Anyway, so met her at a pool party at my buddy's house, i escalated very quickly, ended up banging her in the bathroom after like 2 or 3 hours of being there. We crashed together in a spare room.
She initiated texting within the next couple days. I enjoyed her company and she was cool and everything. She had a very high interest level that she basically we suggested we grab a drink later that week. I sent her a counteroffer saying i'm short on cash so we should just chill at her place with some wine and watch the Sopranos (which we had said we should do at the party). She was totally down. Went there a few days ago...escalated quickly and banged the hell out of her for a long time.
Later that night, after i went home, i get this:
Her: Are you interested in me or is it just sex?
Me: Before I answer, what are you looking for?
Her: I am not sure. I just want to be on the same page. I am trying to seperate a feeling and sex.
Me: Honestly i'm just looking to have some fun before i go back to school in the fall. I do enjoy hanging out with you (besides just sex) but i dont wanna lead you on into thinking i'm looking for anything serious.
Her: Okay. That's fine. That is more the vibe i was getting from everything.
Me: [Thumbs Up]
Next day we text back and forth about whatever...my sis was having an open house she asked how it was going,etc, etc.
Next day she texts:
Her: Am i allowed to say that I love having sex with you?
Me: Yes. Feedback is always appreciated. I loved when you were riding on top....it was so hot
Her: I could tell that also. I like it on top. Idk, i like how ruff you are. But you are still really gentle because i am so petite.
Me: Mmmm
[Sorry Sosuave if that was TMI]
My question is this...When i have one night stands, i try to convert them into FB's or FWB's, and they are usually open to it. I find that I am very blunt about my intentions because I dont want them to get attached or get the wrong idea. I often tell them within the first few times of hanging out (read: banging) them something along the lines of "Just so we're clear...i'm not looking for anything serious right now. I'm just looking to have some fun. I want to be on the same page"
They're typically cool with this. Do you find that it is best to be very direct with them? It SEEMS at least that they are okay with laying ground rules.
I know that I don't get attached at all. I just get worried that they are going to start falling for me, so i want to talk about it up front with them so that they're on the same page.
How do you guys handle the whole fvckbuddies/ friend's with benefits deal?
I was even wondering if it's a good idea to verbally make a distinction with them between whether we want to be Fbuddy's or FWB.
Obviously a FWB involves having sex with someone that is also cool to hang out with. It's cool to text friendly or flirty stuff relatively frequently, as long as no one is developing romantic feelings.This involves a lot more self control on the part of the girl, because it's not strictly sex, you guys actually chill and talk and stuff. While girls are often more comfortable with this (because they dont feel like just a cheap slvt), they can often develop feelings.
Fbuddy is essentially a booty call. You don't make much of any contact at all, except to figure out the logistics of where you are going to bang. With the exception of maybe some nude pic exchanges and a bit of sexting.
Honestly this girl has enough of a personality and i feel like we could be friends as well as banging each other. I prefer the FWB in general because it's less anonymous and i feel like it makes the sex better if you hangout with them too. However, i dont want this chick to develop feelings. Thoughts?
She initiated texting within the next couple days. I enjoyed her company and she was cool and everything. She had a very high interest level that she basically we suggested we grab a drink later that week. I sent her a counteroffer saying i'm short on cash so we should just chill at her place with some wine and watch the Sopranos (which we had said we should do at the party). She was totally down. Went there a few days ago...escalated quickly and banged the hell out of her for a long time.
Later that night, after i went home, i get this:
Her: Are you interested in me or is it just sex?
Me: Before I answer, what are you looking for?
Her: I am not sure. I just want to be on the same page. I am trying to seperate a feeling and sex.
Me: Honestly i'm just looking to have some fun before i go back to school in the fall. I do enjoy hanging out with you (besides just sex) but i dont wanna lead you on into thinking i'm looking for anything serious.
Her: Okay. That's fine. That is more the vibe i was getting from everything.
Me: [Thumbs Up]
Next day we text back and forth about whatever...my sis was having an open house she asked how it was going,etc, etc.
Next day she texts:
Her: Am i allowed to say that I love having sex with you?
Me: Yes. Feedback is always appreciated. I loved when you were riding on top....it was so hot
Her: I could tell that also. I like it on top. Idk, i like how ruff you are. But you are still really gentle because i am so petite.
Me: Mmmm
[Sorry Sosuave if that was TMI]
My question is this...When i have one night stands, i try to convert them into FB's or FWB's, and they are usually open to it. I find that I am very blunt about my intentions because I dont want them to get attached or get the wrong idea. I often tell them within the first few times of hanging out (read: banging) them something along the lines of "Just so we're clear...i'm not looking for anything serious right now. I'm just looking to have some fun. I want to be on the same page"
They're typically cool with this. Do you find that it is best to be very direct with them? It SEEMS at least that they are okay with laying ground rules.
I know that I don't get attached at all. I just get worried that they are going to start falling for me, so i want to talk about it up front with them so that they're on the same page.
How do you guys handle the whole fvckbuddies/ friend's with benefits deal?
I was even wondering if it's a good idea to verbally make a distinction with them between whether we want to be Fbuddy's or FWB.
Obviously a FWB involves having sex with someone that is also cool to hang out with. It's cool to text friendly or flirty stuff relatively frequently, as long as no one is developing romantic feelings.This involves a lot more self control on the part of the girl, because it's not strictly sex, you guys actually chill and talk and stuff. While girls are often more comfortable with this (because they dont feel like just a cheap slvt), they can often develop feelings.
Fbuddy is essentially a booty call. You don't make much of any contact at all, except to figure out the logistics of where you are going to bang. With the exception of maybe some nude pic exchanges and a bit of sexting.
Honestly this girl has enough of a personality and i feel like we could be friends as well as banging each other. I prefer the FWB in general because it's less anonymous and i feel like it makes the sex better if you hangout with them too. However, i dont want this chick to develop feelings. Thoughts?
