"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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talkin too much?

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recently, i've been told by some people that even though, i'm funny and charming, i speak too much and i'm pretty irritating for that (expecially when i'm drunk, but also when i'm sober)

would it be better to shut up? how do you recognize when is the moment to speak and when it's not?
thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lol I have the same problem sometimes. I just keep talking about anything random and often say too much about myself! Talk about egotistical lol. :p

And it's incredibly ironic because only a year ago I was the complete opposite; I didn't talk much, especially about myself.

I think you just have to develop a feel of when it's time to speak up or shut up. Strike a balance. Tell yourself "They don't need to know everything about me".

Ask yourself "Do they really care about what I have to say?" and perhaps more importantly "Would I really care about what I'm saying if I we're them?". :)
 

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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
The best conversationalist talks to you about YOU, not himself.
Exactly. Talk to a person about themselves and they will listen for hours. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
The best conversationalist talks to you about YOU, not himself.
ok, but i actually am a great conversationalist when i'm talkin to just a person or maybe a small group. the problem is where i'm like out with a bunch of 5 or more people... i am often seen as the leader and people expect me to say something, so after a few days they know me, i'm seen as someone who just says bullsh1t, basically a clown... funny but soon irritating and no longer the leader

any ideas?
 

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Only thing that matters is if you are winning or losing!

If you are winning in life, how friends, bitc hes, you life is where you want it to be who gives a **** what some people think!

History will judge you in the end and it usually doesn't state what you wanted it to state so as long as you win when it's all over that's all that matters!
 

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No one expects you to lead a conversation. You have created that fantasy in your mind. Do you think that if you left the group of 5 people the other 4 wouldn't be able to talk without you?

Take your friends advise and stop talking so much (easy way is just to ask questions) ... its ok if there is silence.
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
No one expects you to lead a conversation. You have created that fantasy in your mind. Do you think that if you left the group of 5 people the other 4 wouldn't be able to talk without you?

Take your friends advise and stop talking so much (easy way is just to ask questions) ... its ok if there is silence.
it's not me that expects it... when i don't talk, people keep askin me "c'mon man, you don't feel good?" or something on that line and ask me to tell them some stories...
 
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