Taking it slow

[TheBadassador]

Hi guys, I have been reading your forums for a couple weeks now, and I have found them really helpful in changing my outlook on women and just life in general.

Tonight was a night I will not soon forget. A girl that I have been interested in is going out of town tommorow so I took her out tonight before she left. It was a nice date, we played mini-golf, took a walk, had some good kino. After the date we drove back to her house she told me she had a good time, and unfortunately I reverted back to my Nice Guy self and didn't kiss her before she left my car.

Now you may be thinking that this is just some normal story about some wuss that had a chance but didn't take it. Here is where it gets interesting though, I realized that if I was going to get anywhere in the relationship I had to step up and be a man. So after driving home, I called her back up and told her there was something I needed to talk to her about.

I went back to her house intending to finish what I should have done the first time we said goodbye. So I got there, told her that I felt like we ended things a little short earlier in the night, and then I went to kiss her. But, she didnt go for it and I ended up kissing her cheek.

She then proceeded to tell me that she really had a good time with me, but she wanted to take things slow. She said in her past realationships she jumped in too fast and that while she did like me a lot she didn't want to rush in to things.

My question to you guys is, do you think I was right in going back? And also what do you think about the whole "taking it slow" line?

 

[Rocko]

well, i think you were right going back, but the whole "taking it slow" line probably means that she doesn't want you. Congrats on the date and rallying the courage to go back and kiss her. You know where your mistakes were, work on em for next time

 

[Holland]

Learn from this and move on.

Ask yourself this question, if she would've been really attracted to you would she would have said that. No way. Don't lose hope, though. Just don't see her for a week or more, set up another date, amplify the attraction some more, build in some anticipation and don't wuss out when it's closing time.

 

[LikRetsam]

She doesn't want you at the moment. This may change.

Do not attempt to make contact with her but if you do cross her somewhere just act casually. Most of all, do not show interest. Do not show that she may have bothered you.