"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stupid encounter at the club

green69

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So I'm minding my own business near the bar at this friendly club, and this girl grabs my hand and pulls me towards her. She's pretty cute so I'm thinkin this could be pretty good. She tells me to introduce myself and all that, she's with a friend of hers. Her friend says hi to me and asks how my nights been etc...friendly chat. The first girl then starts talking to me I'm more interested in her anyway, I think her friend was talking with someone else so she was out of the picture at this time. But sounds ok so far right?

Then the original girl says like "why don't you buy my hot friend a drink?" and I respond with like "nah I'm ok." and then she later says "If you buy her a drink she'll probably kiss you." and I said like "I'm not really into buying girls drinks." or something and then the conversation died a little while after that. Also note that her "hot friend" was with a guy/boyfriend this entire time to add to the stupidity of the girl asking me to buy her 'hot friend' a drink. Am I off on this one or were they just gold diggers, and I was a target because of my 'nice guy' look I seem to have.

I dunno maybe I look like a sucker or something, "Buy my hot friend a drink and she'll kiss you!" what am I supposed to say like "OK!!!" Jeez....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You should've said something like: "Hey, what about you kiss me right now and maybe I'll think about it (buying her a drink)"


But hey, man. Doesn't matter.
 

lurker

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hello holland.

yes they saw you as a low status male otherwise they would not have messed with you.
you need to not smile often in presence of girls.
 

skeeloo

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she saw you as a sweet boy. somtimes thats why i always have a serious look on my face.
 

wjh

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that would annoy the **** out of me. i would definitely look at myself and wonder why i even put out the sort of vibe that brought that sort of situation upon myself in the first place.

i would have ignored them and started talking to other girls.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Gonzalo

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You should've been like "Bartender! A glass of water of the lady"
 

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Originally posted by Gonzalo
You should've been like "Bartender! A glass of water of the lady"
LOL that's actually a good one!! *makes a mental note of it*

=D

//Deus
 

green69

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Originally posted by wjh
that would annoy the **** out of me. i would definitely look at myself and wonder why i even put out the sort of vibe that brought that sort of situation upon myself in the first place.

i would have ignored them and started talking to other girls.
ya I did annoy me a lot. Unfortunately I didn't really realize what they were doing till AFTER the whole thing happened. When it was happening I thought they were hitting on me but then I did something that offended them. Not till later I realized they were gold diggers trying to get a sucker to buy them drinks. It doesn't surprise me TOO much though, I have that innocent, nice guy look which could be mistaken for a sucker. I gotta start hittin' the gym I guess so I look a little more rugged and not so young and innocent.
 

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that's awesome you shoulda said cool i'll get you a drink and then asked for a water. and then say, and then asked for the kiss hah
 

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You should have said the guy shes with over there can buy her a drink, im going to give her a half of pint of throat yogurt

She would have shyt her pants with that comment. No joke, she wouldnt think your a push over after that remark
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"Will you leave me the **** alone if I buy you both a drink?"
 

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HB: "Buy me a drink"

PUA: "You sound like the bum down the street"

or

PUA: "Tell you what - you pay for the drinks, and I'll pay for the room"

or

PUA: "I don't buy my women"

or

Her: "Buy my hot friend a drink, and she'll probably kiss you"

PUA: "What are you, her pimp?"
 

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Originally posted by green69
So I'm minding my own business near the bar at this friendly club, and this girl grabs my hand and pulls me towards her. She's pretty cute so I'm thinkin this could be pretty good. She tells me to introduce myself and all that, she's with a friend of hers. Her friend says hi to me and asks how my nights been etc...friendly chat. The first girl then starts talking to me I'm more interested in her anyway, I think her friend was talking with someone else so she was out of the picture at this time. But sounds ok so far right?

Then the original girl says like "why don't you buy my hot friend a drink?" and I respond with like "nah I'm ok." and then she later says "If you buy her a drink she'll probably kiss you." and I said like "I'm not really into buying girls drinks." or something and then the conversation died a little while after that. Also note that her "hot friend" was with a guy/boyfriend this entire time to add to the stupidity of the girl asking me to buy her 'hot friend' a drink. Am I off on this one or were they just gold diggers, and I was a target because of my 'nice guy' look I seem to have.

I dunno maybe I look like a sucker or something, "Buy my hot friend a drink and she'll kiss you!" what am I supposed to say like "OK!!!" Jeez....
She probably would have had you buy her friend a drink, and then drank it herself. "Oh, my friend is with her boyfriend so she says she cant take it, but i can".

Girls are sneaky...
 
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